Economic and social pressures have absorbed us in such a way that we have forgotten to live. Instead, we confine ourselves to surviving. We work without enjoying, we eat without tasting, we speak without communicating, and we ride through life accepting and generating destructive and painful relationships. The worst thing about this is that we have become accustomed to living like this, and we believe that we should continue that way. The good news, which brings us this work, is that nothing compels us to live that way; and we have the right and the ability to change our destiny. Obviously, one of the main needs for human beings is education. But I am not referring solely to academics; I also refer to learning to live, education for everyday. We need to learn what urges us, as a society and as individuals, to know and to recognize ourselves in order to modify behaviors, which constrain us, and produce suffering to those around us and ourselves. "The Challenge of Changing Your Life" is not just a stop on the way to reflecting on life, happiness, our relationships, past, present, future and mainly about ourselves. It is rather a repair and maintenance workshop which we can use to align and fix ourselves and then return to the path with another perspective, anew vision and tools to correct any damage that may arise during the rest of our journey.

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The Challenge of Changing Your Life

By Clara Stella Arenas, Mirna Pineda

Balboa Press

DEDICATION, v, 
PROLOGUE, xi, 
ACKNOWLEDGEMENTS, xv, 
INTRODUCTION, xxv, 
TANGLE: I WILL BE HAPPY WHEN CHANGE: I AM HAPPY EVEN THOUGH, 1, 
TANGLE: I WILL BELIEVE IT WHEN I SEE IT CHANGE: I WILL SEE IT WHEN I BELIEVE IT, 8, 
TANGLE: I MARRY THE OLD IDEAS CHANGE: I AM OPEN TO CHANGE, 13, 
TANGLE: THE MIND IS IN THE BRAIN CHANGE: THE MIND DOES NOT HAVE A SPECIFIC PLACE, 18, 
TANGLE: I CAN'T CHANGE CHANGE: I DECIDE TO CHANGE, 24, 
TANGLE: IT IS YOUR FAULT I FEEL BAD CHANGE: I AM WELL, YOU ARE WELL, 30, 
TANGLE: I WIN, YOU LOSE CHANGE: WE ALL WIN, 32, 
TANGLE: IF I GIVE TO YOU, I WILL END UP WITH NOTHING CHANGE: WHEN I GIVE, I RECEIVE, 36, 
TANGLE: I SAY WHAT I FEEL CHANGE: I THINK WHAT I SAY, 43, 
TANGLE: I STOP DREAMING AND BELIEVING CHANGE: I DREAM TO BELIEVE AND CREATE, 48, 
TANGLE: I WEAR MASKS TO HIDE CHANGE: I TAKE OFF MY MASK TO BE HAPPY, 51, 
TANGLE: LIFE TREATS ME BADLY CHANGE: I TREAT LIFE FAIRLY, 57, 
TANGLE: I AM STUCK CHANGE: I MOVE FORWARD OR BACKWARDS, 62, 
TANGLE: I HEAR YOU CHANGE: I LISTEN WITHOUT TALKING, 65, 
TANGLE: WHAT A FOOL I AM CHANGE: I AM PROUD, 73, 
TANGLE: I WANT YOU TO UNDERSTAND ME CHANGE: I WANT TO UNDERSTAND OTHERS, 77, 
TANGLE: EVERYBODY LIMITS ME CHANGE: I LIMIT MYSELF, 89, 
TANGLE: I WANT REVENGE TO DO JUSTICE CHANGE: I WANT TO UNDERSTAND TO BE IN PEACE, 100, 
TANGLE: I FORGIVE, BUT I DO NOT FORGET CHANGE: TO FORGIVE IS TO UNDERSTAND, 104, 
TANGLE: I AM A VICTIM CHANGE: I AM RESPONSIBLE, 114, 
TANGLE: FACTS ARE IMPORTANT CHANGE: WHAT IS IMPORTANT IS THE INTERPRETATION, 121, 
TANGLE: LIFE IS A GAME OF RUSSIAN ROULETTE CHANGE: LIFE IS A WHEEL, 125, 
TANGLE: I HAVE DESIRES CHANGE: I SET GOALS, 131, 
TANGLE: I SWEAR NEVER AGAIN CHANGE: I AM WITHOUT INTEGRITY, 135, 
TANGLE: I DO NOT HAVE THE RESOURCES CHANGE: I DECIDE AND THE RESOURCES APPEAR, 139, 
TANGLE: I AM POOR BUT HAPPY CHANGE: I AM RICH AND HAPPY, 143, 
TANGLE: THERE ARE OBSTACLES IN MY WAY CHANGE: I ALWAYS FIND HELP, 157, 
TANGLE: STOP DAYDREAMING CHANGE: VISUALIZE WHAT YOU WANT, 163, 
TANGLE: EVERYBODY IS AGAINST ME CHANGE: I DECIDE MY DESTINY, 166, 
TANGLE: LIFE IS A DRAMA CHANGE: LIFE IS LEARNING FROM THE DRAMA, 170, 
TANGLE: GOD IS GOING TO PUNISH YOU CHANGE: GOD LOVES YOU, 179, 
TANGLE: I WILL START TOMORROW CHANGE: I START NOW, 182,

CHAPTER 1

TANGLE: I WILL BE HAPPY WHEN

CHANGE: I AM HAPPY EVEN THOUGH

Tangle: I Will Be Happy When

Change: I'm Happy Even Though

If you had a magic wand and you could ask for 3 wishes, what would you wish for?

You have 10 seconds to say them aloud.

10, 9, 8, 7, 6, 5, 4, 3, 2, 1 �Time!

Even though the phrase sounds like a story, it is interesting to note that when we ask this question to the participants of our seminar, hardly ever can somebody define more than one wish. Some of them openly affirm that they do not know what they want. Some others murmur something like: "I want to be happy". And they say it very quietly.

They have spent their lives looking for happiness, and on the road they have found only sorrows. They look outside themselves: waiting to be grownups in order to be happy, when school is over, when they get married (for some when they get divorced), when their partner changes and makes them happy. They wait to win the lottery, so they can be debt free. They wait for their children to grow up, so they have time to travel. Then and only then they will have all they have been waiting for; then they think they will be happy.

People connect their happiness to WHEN.

What about a new idea: what about starting by making the changes in your mind?

Instead of waiting to be happy WHEN, be happy EVEN THOUGH.

Because being happy is an inner decision, it does not depend on circumstances.

To be able to declare: "Even though I do not have the car of my dreams, I decide to be happy". "Even though I have a headache, I decide to be happy". "Even though a loved one just died, I have decided to be happy".

If we say that, the workshop participants' eyes open wide, and we almost can read their faces: "If it were so easy." "They do not know my story". "MY LIFE HAS BEEN SO DIFFICULT". "It is easy for them to say that, but if they knew my story ...!"

It is true that the life stories are diverse; the events can change. However, the emotions are the same: guilt, shame, sadness, depression, pessimism, envy, jealousy, boredom, anger, resentment. An accumulation of negative emotions tends to be limiting, and in general they distort the perception and interpretation of the facts. It also discourages people from reaching their goals, prompting them to inactivity, passivity, and in many cases to aggressiveness.

The important thing is that when people can define at least one wish–which can be obtained with the mental magic wand-, and decide to work on themselves, a great number of people mention an emotion, this time positive such as happiness, satisfaction, hope, plenitude, good humor, optimism, tranquility and peace as part of what they want to get for their lives.

"I want to be happy", they say with a quiet voice. They look at what others say, because they feel that they have failed and that they are the only ones that feel that way. When they realize that they are not alone, that everybody else in the group feels the same, they give a sigh of relief. Then some of them say smiling: "Well, it seems like we all want the same, but we do not know how to get it."

What they don't realize is that they have already started to find the way. You are doing the same by reading this book. You are beginning to move forward instead of remaining stuck.

The next expression is heard frequently during the seminars, the only difference is the person's name or sex. It can come out of a mouth of a woman or a man: "Life is soooo difficult." They lengthen the word "so" to make it more emphatic.

"Who said it was difficult?" We ask.

Then they start to tell all the stories that they heard, the phrases that somebody else mentioned over and over again, part of the legacy from their parents, family members, friends, teachers, etc. The most interesting thing is that they take it as truth, because "everybody" said so.

Instead of labeling life according to "How you have done so far?" according to your own experiences, and the ones that were given to you for generations, add this new idea to your mind:

LIFE IS ...

Everyone needs to finish the sentence. Life can be as beautiful as you want to see it, or as tragic as you decide, depending on individual perception and interpretation. The marvelous Celia Cruz used to sing with all her heart that "Anyone who thinks life is cruel, needs to know that it is not true, there are only bad moments, and everything passes. Life is a carnival to laugh and enjoy".

Life is a game with no instructions; and if it had them, most likely we wouldn't read or practice them anyway.

This brings up another phrase made popular by a communicator: "The media is not good or bad; it depends on the use that it will be given". We could paraphrase Marshall McLuhan and affirm that LIFE IS NOT GOOD OR BAD, IT DEPENDS ON HOW WE USE IT.

If we talk about the use, the simplest way is to look at results. If you are...

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