The information in this book is just another way of looking at situations in marriages and relationships; how a woman chooses a man; the dangers that lead to committing suicide; Biblical guidance for believers and non-believers; this book can be used to help women from becoming a victim of abuse; or being murdered or stuck in a cage or being a prisoner in their own homes. The information in this book will also help women not to wallow in their past mistakes; and be able to see warning signs so they won't overlook them; this book will serve as guidance to women that when they communicate it keeps them from procrastination and from suffering many painful regrets.
Women Looking for a Man God couldn't Find
"Commit thy works unto the LORD, and thy thoughts shall be established!" Proverbs 16:3By Vester L. DockAuthorHouse
Copyright © 2012 Vester L. Dock
All right reserved.ISBN: 978-1-4772-1638-5Chapter One
My niece's death alone with many other young and old beautiful women that I've known who have been in and out of bad relationships and marriages, and some still are; inspire me to write this book. My hope is that I may be able to save a few women like my niece from setting themselves up for a man to treat them as anything less than a woman. A woman with a low self-esteem is a woman who is a target for a man who doesn't want to do right. She may not have a body with measurements of 36-24-36; but she must always tell herself that she is somebody and should never let a man treat her any less.
My niece always wanted to please her man, even if it meant displeasing herself. She dug a hole for herself going overboard at any cost to please her man, not knowing he could leave her any day. I am a man and I tell you looks can be deceiving, and a man's actions don't always mean that there isn't a hidden agenda. In other words, what I'm saying is this; when it comes to a man what you see and hear is not always what you are getting. Whenever my niece told me about a suitor; I always asked her if she questioned him about his background; did she investigate his beliefs. She would just say to me "Brother I know him from back in the day" My reply to her would be, "you knew him then, but how well do you know him now?" Ladies, stop looking for Mr. Right or Mr. Perfect he doesn't exist, look for the right man for you, not the one that your girlfriends will tell you is cute or the one that has a shiny new car; how many children does he have, does he believe in God? Is he a provider, is he a protector, what does he want to do with his life. That's what this book is about, "Women Looking for the Man God Could Not Find."
I chose this title from the Book of Jeremiah; 5:1-2 KJV, the verse goes like this "Run ye to and fro through the streets of Jerusalem, and see now, and know, and seek in the broad places there if ye can find a man, if there be any that executed judgment, that seeketh the truth; and I will pardon it, and though they say, the LORD, liveth; Surely they swear falsely "O-LORD, are not thine eyes upon theTruth. After Jeremiah launched his investigation, he discovered a sad "Tragic Fact." After going up and down every street in Jerusalem; and every square, looking high and low to find a man who was living a righteous life; one man who was honest or one man who seeketh the Truth. Ladies the report came back that Jeremiah could not find one that seeketh the Truth. This verse reminds me of the Reign of King Josiah, he was made King at a very young age and being in charge of a mighty nation was a big challenge for him and as a result; his nations were in chaos. Our Lord and Savior was not satisfied with how many people had little faith and forgotten Him. And so were the days of Jeremiah in Jerusalem. There were acts of adultery, and idolatry; possessing things became all important, and any means to possessing them seemed justified so he sent Jeremiah out to find one man who was honest and seeking of the truth; so that he would forgive the city, but that one man could not be found. This is what Jerusalem was like in Jeremiah's days, and those days aren't any different from the days we are living now.
Now before Jeremiah's day and time in Genesis 18:24 KJV tells us that God agreed with Abraham to spare the life of Sodom and Gomorrah if he could find 50 Righteous Men within the city; even God said to Abraham that if he find 10 Righteous men he will not destroy the city. But the record shows that Abraham could not find 10; this shows how bad things were. My niece Gail's greatest mistake, as many other women, is that instead of letting the man love her for her; she dug a hole for herself going out of her way trying to please him. What I'm trying to tell you ladies, is that she lost sight of God's words.
Chapter Two
Now because Gail knew my life story and how I struggled to come up from Mississippi; she thought Brother could work out any situation she got herself into. This is partially my fault because I raised Gail along with my own children. She stayed in my house until she became a young lady and moved out on her own. When she took a fall with drugs; I was there for her; and by the Grace of God, she over came the drugs. She was amazed that she never heard me complain. Sometimes I was so broke that I didn't know how I was going to take care of everybody; my family, her family and other families too. During that time I felt like I had the world on my shoulders; and by the Grace of God, I was balancing it. Gail saw this and she would always say "Brother Gonna Work it Out." I didn't like to let Gail down; she was more like a daughter to me than a niece. I knew she needed my help; and she knew I would always do what I could to help her; and because of that she always thought that Brother was going to work it out. I often told her that there are some things that Brother will not be able to work out.
My friend, my niece, my educator, my daughter; and my great supporter, Gail's health began to fail from the hole she had dug for herself. Gail was in and out of the hospital since November 2009. She had started taking various kinds of pills. I was worried so I asked her if she were trying to take her own life. Her answer startled me and I knew at that point that I "Brother" was losing my Gail; Fat Gail, part of the joy of the family.
Gail was a very educated and skillful reader who became well versed in the Bible. Her downfall was trying to please men and always live above her means. I was always there for Gail; spiritually, physically, financially no matter what. I never stopped going to see her even before her health began to fail her. I tried to warn her that she was digging a hole for herself; I told her Brother won't be able to work it out and that is when communication between Gail and I just wasn't the same anymore.
Gail had a boyfriend whom she allowed to use her car on several occasions. But she started to see the other side of this man when her car broke down. When she asked him if she could use his car, he said no. He told her that he had found another girlfriend. This tore Gail apart. She started to go deeper and deeper into a hole; and her cage became smaller. She was in over her head. Gail started into a deep depression; she stayed away from the family, she started not caring about her appearance and was down on her job and most importantly she stopped coming to church and her faith in God waivered. I watched Gail's health get worse after her faith in God waivered.
I didn't know it at first; but Gail had a very low self-esteem. She believed what her man told her and all she wanted to do was please him. She didn't understand that before you start doing things for a man, that you have to check him out first. A woman should take her time to find out if a man is worthy of being with her. Just because a man looks good or drives a nice car doesn't say that he is the man for you. When you are out in the club and see a nice looking man; wait for him to ask you to dance or wait for his lead. I know this is the new millennium; but it is not exactly proper for a woman to just invite a man into her space, giving her phone number, inviting him to dinner, without him even asking. Ladies, if you do that, you will be setting yourself up to become a victim in a bad...
