Everything you need to know whether you are recently divorced, dating, committing to a new beginning or dealing with the myriad of challenging second unions bring.
Second Chance for a love to last takes you on a journey, It starts with marriage and relationships in general and takes you through to practical steps needed to reduce the stresses and challenges most couples under estimate when marrying or partnering again. You will learn:
✧ Why the institution of marriage has survived for at least 5,000 years
✧ How to recognise and strengthen all areas of your life
✧ Why it is important to understand the impact that 21st century changes are having on our relationships
✧ Why there has never been a time when the perfect family unit existed
✧ Why no marriage is a failure
✧ What drives us and why it is important to identify our highest needs, values, love language and personality type
✧ What does love look like to us, and how that may change as we age
✧ What to ask so we understand our partner and our compatibility
✧ The seven most common heartbreakers of second marriages and how to turn them into love-makers
✧ How to nurture and grow love, passion and intimacy
✧ Why it is important to build a strong foundation and master the art of communication
✧ The impact that families and friends can have on relationships and how to combat this
✧ When children are part of the package, how to see the impact from their viewpoint
✧ How to address the issues of finances, inheritance and legal matters that might affect you.
✧ Effective strategies for merging homes and lifestyles and so much more
Gillian realises that most readers will be very time poor. They are likely to be juggling families (often blended), careers, wider family, busy households, community commitments etc. She has therefore pulled together the best material and teachings into one place, so you don’t have to spend hours researching subjects and comparing answers.
Chapter 1 to 5 focuses on the institution of marriage and the past baggage that you may not have quite let go of, or been able to deal with.
Chapters 6 – 10 are designed to help you understand yourself first, then your partner, your children and the wider family dynamics. Gillian believes this will give you one of the greatest returns in the short term. These chapters introduce you to understanding the six human needs that we all have, knowing our highest values, love language and how we fit into a finite number of personality types. Understanding these are fundamental to communication, love, and acceptance of why we do and think as we do.
Chapters 11 to 15 are about planning your new life together. Ensuring you and your partner consciously take actions to create a strong foundation that will create an ever deepening and fulfilling love to last a lifetime. Within these chapters are the seven heartbreakers of second relationships, and how to create love makers instead. These potential heartbreakers can wear away at the strongest relationships, no matter whether you believe you have found your soul-mate and nothing will rear you apart. Addressing the seven heartbreakers is so fundamental that it is the basis of the ‘Love2Last Method’ the coaching system employed to help couples to build and maintain an awesome life together.
Chapters 16 to 21 address the practical challenges couples are likely to face in their life together. This includes parenting and child issues, impact of the wider family, money matters, legal and inheritance dilemmas, daily household matters and lastly, announcing to the world your new love.
In 1981 Gillian Andale became a first time bride, marrying someone who had already been married. Together they had two children who are now young adults. After divorcing in 2003, she married again in 2007. Her present husband is a divorcee with four children, also young adults, plus a growing number of granddaughters. When the time came, Gillian was surprised at how hard it was to find relevant information relating to remarriage and planning a second wedding. While there was plenty out there, much of it was quite generic, and she didn't have the time to plough through it all to find what was relevant to her. Timing was crucial and the pressure intense; their wedding was to take place in just six weeks so that the honeymoon could coincide with the world trip her partner had planned for her special birthday. A perennial student of life, Gillian has studied human behaviour and growth since 2001. Following her huge wedding challenge, she decided to use her knowledge to find out exactly what people needed to know when planning to remarry. She has brought together a team of experts in their fields to help deliver Love2Last...this time, the first globally-focused web business dedicated to getting married again, planning the wedding, and sustaining the love in the early years - after the honeymoon glow wears off! Gillian's research and studies have gone much deeper than she first envisioned. She found the perception of 'failure' to be at the heart of so many couple's worries, and the long-term impact that mind-set has on families, especially children, is profound. For this reason, she is passionate about changing how we understand our evolution through relationships - in particular the distinctions between perceived success and failure. With more than 50% of families now not fitting the traditional role, it is time to shift our viewpoint, and put a more positive (or at least neutral) spin on the new 'norm'. Gillian has more than first-hand experience in getting married again, blending families, living within acrimonious situations, being a step-parent and step-grandparent, planning an encore wedding, and dealing with the on-going challenges of marrying later in life. The purpose of this book is to help others in the same situation, smoothing this sometimes rocky path and providing easy access to knowledge gained through decades of research and life experience. Before establishing Love2Last, she built a very successful career in Process Reengineering and Project Management, owning her own company as well as holding senior positions in international companies and government departments. Gillian and her family have lived in the UK, Bermuda, Singapore, Australia, and Italy, and she has worked in over 55 other countries. All of the world's cultures are so different, but they all honour marriage, and they all find it equally challenging to make it everything it can be - her books are about helping you do just that.
