Reframing Adoption

This book is dedicated to reframing the role of a birthmother and is designed to provide support, understanding, and information to grieving birthmothers who have given their child up for adoption so that they may move from an emotional loss to a renewed spirit of hope, joy, peace, and contentment. For a mother to gift her child to another family through adoption is a brave action. All adoptions can be grieved in healthy ways. The grief of birthmothers may be magnified by the little contact with their children and the adoptive parents. No matter how the adoption was structured, the birthmother will grieve her loss. The choice for the child should be either gift or guide-by gifting the child to another family or guiding the child by parenting. This is a new choice that is realistic, healthy, and a blessed decision. Think of adoption as a way to "gift" a child through adoption.