From Pink to Blue

Balboa Press

Contents

Awareness To Knowingness...............................1A Pattern leading to The "Concept".....................7Focusing on Children Enlightens Us.....................17A Wealth of Energy.....................................27Another Brilliant Example..............................33A Few More Messages....................................39... and back again.....................................47"Pay Attention"........................................75

Chapter One

As I sat watching one of my nieces twirl herself around the living room clad with a towel as a cape and a spatula as a wand, I was reminded of years past as I watched other nieces, now beautiful grown women, delight themselves in the adventures of infinite possibilities. Consumed so deeply with the vision of limitless realms, they were unaware of anyone or anything. Pure natural belief illuminated from them. Belief that each of us is born with, the belief that we can be anything we want to be, including a princess in a beautifully adorned gown with a magical wand, dancing in near perfect step as the music floats through the air, in our ears, for only us to hear.

I smile when I think of my own son at age 3 walking down the stairs of our home wearing only a cowboy hat, cowboy boots and a holster, fast on the trail of something that his imagination deemed worthy of a chase. Knar did I ever stop his search, with the exception of adding clothing to the mix.

I have such fond memories as I think about their childhoods and feel so fortunate to have witnessed their "bright light" the times I was able. Certainly each differs in personality, actions, emotions, but there is and was one constant in all of their young lives, an unwavering faith that they were special. It is that Faith that is given to each child, rather "gifted" to each child, whether boy or girl when they enter this world.

Each child had a favorite color at this young age; pink was the first choice of most of my nieces, a pure woman's energy color. Each thought themselves to be the perfect image of their imagination.

What a wonderful thing to witness and enjoy.

However, something happens to children I have observed, by the time they near the age of seven to eight. Their sense of personal image is shaken and sometimes completely tumbled. Something has happened to the Faith in infinite possibilities that was gifted to them. In this wavering of character, their favorite things change. Whether that is what they want to be when they grow up, to their favorite color, things change, sometimes slowly, sometimes it seems overnight.

There is a change, as I observed just recently in my niece, a change in favorite color from pink to blue.

Girls no longer like princesses, or think they are or can be one. A towel could certainly never be a gown. Being called a princess has changed from a delight to an insult of sort.

Boys, who once delighted themselves stomping around the house in the most perfect self-appointed example of a dinosaur, complete with snarls and roars, find the idea silly. Being a real cowboy by simply wearing boats and a hat is not logical or possible.

"Children must be taught how to think, not what to think". Margaret Mead

Yes, their image of themselves, the image that was gifted to them from God, which they delighted in for all their young lives, was now challenged. Self-doubt and judging takes the place of pure faith and limitless possibilities. Whether this comes from older children, mothers, fathers, grandparents, aunts, uncles, somewhere, someone has interrupted their own natural flow. Someone has penetrated their very core of right and wrong and made these children question themselves. They are told that there is no such thing as princesses and magical lands, lest grow up to be a princess. They are ridiculed and laughed at, made fun of and teased. The beautiful child that once floated with infinite possibilities is changed, their spirit deflated, corrupted in a sense, and they can never go back. This child will now question everything that he or she thought to be true and right in their informative years. They now doubt their own choices.

What a sad thing we have done. What a wrong has been committed.

Now they are faced with the task of relearning things, however this time to someone else's steps. They are confused and non-committal fearing ridicule. The simplest task may seem difficult, they struggle to make sense of things, often times masking their behavior with forgetfulness or humor.

The confusion is not because they do not know the information or cannot learn it; the confusion is not because they are unable to make simple decisions. It is instead because they are afraid of being wrong, being in trouble.

The fact that everything they thought to be true in their younger lives has been judged by a party of their peers or superiors, judged, criticized and more times than not corrected, they have been placed in the position of doubting everything they think is right.

These children have been forced to be someone they are not and for that, they are placed in the position of questioning everything.

They have to again "figure things out," as told to me by one of the children I interviewed.

Children are placed in the position of relearning nearly everything. What is acceptable behavior, answers, personality, likes, dislikes, relearning everything based not on them, but based on other people or society. They have been taught doubt, doubt in themselves.

Having been so deeply saddened when this process was made aware to me and realizing this process has and would repeat itself generation after generation, I knew it was time to share this Awareness-Knowingness-Concept.

"If you want your children to be intelligent, read them fairy tales. If you want them to be more intelligent, read them more fairy tales". Albert Einstein

Chapter Two

It is the Concept of telling a child that they cannot be their dream, that their ideas and opinions are wrong or silly that needs to be addressed; it needs to be modified for the betterment of our children's future, for everyone's future really.

If we allow every child to believe in their dreams, then their "purpose" will never be doubted. If their purpose is never doubted, then achieving their "greatest good" will happen seamlessly.

Instead of spending years correcting the harm of hiding their inner truths, they will spend those years in their "greatest good", achieving more than could even be imagined I would venture to say.

"There is no greater insight into the future than recognizing ... when we save our children, we save ourselves". Margaret Mead

As it is now, it is not until later in life, sometimes much later in life and sadly, sometimes never, that many women and men again begin to embrace their truth of infinite possibilities. Women and men spend hours, rather years searching, studying and processing. Through long painful analyzing and letting go of past violations that have been stored deeply inside, below piles of memories, each having to be peeled away, examined, addressed and released.

I think it is important at this point to recognize that not all children have been...