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Peaceful Separation/Peaceful Divorce

By HEATHER FRENNER

AuthorHouse

Copyright © 2009 Heather Frenner, RYT, Chopra Yoga and Meditation Instructor
All right reserved.
ISBN: 978-1-4389-7774-4

Chapter One

Sunday

Daily affirmation to tear out and carry with you throughout your day:

I grace myself with silence, witnessing the beauty and love in myself and in all living things.

Sunday

The wisdom for today reflects the feeling of being absolute, of being non-judgmental, and of appreciating all of the magnificence found in nature, our refreshing oasis and the true healing source.

A transition from being married (till death do us part) into a separation and/or divorce truly does not need to be a death, but a gentle parting of sweet joy and unbounded bliss. If you completely surrender to the level of the soul and allow universal spirit to transition through your soul, which is also infinitely connected with the soul of your soon-to-be ex-spouse, you will find the freedom to love him or her in a new, profoundly enlightened way. It is in this discovery of freedom, in this enlightened state of love, where we access the level of the soul, which is the source of true power; it is who we really are, an infinite being who loves all and is all with one. The human soul, quite simply put, would never, ever cause pain and suffering to another soul, because that other soul is the mirror, that sacred, divine reflection of our own soul. I am sure you have heard family, friends, colleagues, and even strangers compliment you on your appearance. It makes us feel beautiful and accepted and appreciated and even more apparent. The compliment is mirroring not only our thoughts and our actions and the way we feel about ourselves, but the compliment in and of itself is the direct reflection of the person who is complimenting you! Our souls are the very reflection of love itself. And, our true self, which is our soul, is unbounded and carefree and filled with infinite love and light. When we learn to live a life based on love, we bring into our life, and the lives of all of those who surround us, wholesome and nourishing relationships based on non-judgment and non-expectation. This is the realm that the soul thrives in. This is the field of pure potentiality.

How do we access the power of our true self and embrace that sacred realm for our soul to thrive in as we go through separation and divorce? We access it by taking time today to grace ourselves with silence, taking time to enjoy all of the beauty and wonder of the universe. We access it by not judging or expecting anything from anyone or any situation. We access it by appreciating the gift of life and love in our lives, and we begin the miraculous journey. We begin to manifest change.

How to manifest the change you would like to see in your separation and/or divorce:

A.) Truly become silence. Take some time today to quiet your body, your mind, and your soul by taking some time for yourself, silently. Literally, gift yourself with silence. We give so much of ourselves by giving our time that we often neglect to take the time to replenish our own integral being to simply be. Even in the midst of chaos and turmoil, we are still capable of accessing harmony. If your partner has anger and manipulation and control issues (as they so often do in separation and divorce cases), your silence will actually let you become immune to criticism and immune to fear. You will have accessed your soul in this silent replenishment of acceptance. Your true divine source of power will harness the calm serenity that lies deep within your soul. Please be gentle with yourself and honor your soul by gifting your body and mind with the precious blessing of silence. You will find that meditation is simply the finest way to observe silence and harness pure potentiality, which will bless you with infinite possibilities of peace, harmony, laughter, and love. Give yourself the gift of meditation at least twice a day for about a half an hour each time, preferably at sunrise and at sunset, and watch the benefits grow!

B.) Take a hike! Detach from the drama of your soon-to-be ex- spouse and go for a walk in nature. Nature has very powerful, healing energies just waiting to nourish your senses. As you physically connect with the earth, you connect with the universal spirit. Bear witness to the miraculous creations of God. Become one with yourself, through all living things.

C.) "Judge ye not" is the key function today. Please remind yourself not to judge anyone or any situation, including yourself. I know this might be difficult as your soon-to-be ex-spouse may be pissing you off. Hey, we are only human. You say your soon-to-be ex- spouse is not in your space of love and is engaging in acts of judgment, expectation, and even hatred? Let us recall those very poignant words of Jesus Christ. "Let he who is without sin cast the first stone." Don't go looking for the hugest rock you can find to hurl at your personal pain-in-the-ass! Acknowledge that you are angry and move on! When we acknowledge our feelings and detach from the drama, we enter the space of acceptance, which is the foundation of love. Embrace hatred with love! The more love we bring into this situation, the less we judge. The more we judge others, the more we judge ourselves and the more others judge us. It is really a vicious circle of soul biting and gnawing! It is so much easier to relinquish all thoughts of judgment and enter that divine principal of Namaste, where you actually honor the divine in them, as they honor the divine in you.

The spiritual essence of today activates the seventh chakra, also known as the sahasrara chakra or crown chakra. It is located at the top of the head and is envisioned as a magnificent, thousand-petal lotus blossom, opening directly upward, toward the heavens, directly linking our soul to God, to all there is, to universal spirit. This chakra is embraced by the glorious color of violet, which encompasses all religions and all forms of spirituality. The universal sound that activates this chakra is the sound of creation itself. It is om. Please take a moment to sit silently, in a cross-legged position, if comfortable. Close your eyes and take a deep breath in through your nostrils. Slowly and gently exhale the healing vibration, om.

There is also a lovely and restorative yoga posture, also known as asana, that activates this crown chakra. It is a glorious posture known as Matsyasana, the fish pose. It will offer an extension into a more complete and full breath, as it releases built-up tension from the pelvic region. It also will benefit the thyroid gland. As with common sense, please consult the advice of a physician before engaging in any of the yoga poses instructed in this book.

Lie flat on your back. Then, bend both knees as you rest both feet on the floor, slightly wider than hip width apart, with your toes pointed slightly inward. Next, gently roll your right hip upward as you bring your right arm underneath the right side of your body, with the right palm turned down. Then, lower the right hip down, on top of your right arm. Repeat this procedure on your left side. Next, extend your left leg straight out and rest it on the floor. Repeat this same procedure with your right leg, and point the toes on both feet. Please now begin to fill your lungs with a deep inhalation of breath as you allow your chest to rise up and off of the floor. Let your head gently focus on a beautiful...