The Obsessive Mule: A Guide For OCPD Spouses

Do you feel like you are walking on eggshells around your partner? Do you constantly have to deal with their criticism, demands, and unrealistic expectations? Do they appear to be miserable and complain about everything?

Do they get so focused on doing something until it is perfect? Are they intelligent and competent - yet unable to make a decision? Do they have an aversion to getting rid of old things and are miserly with money?

Do they easily lose their temper over minor things and seem to have two personalities like Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde? On one hand they are pleasant, and on the other - intolerant, impatient and explosive? And are they as stubborn as a mule? Yet, they are hard-working and moral even though they sometimes come off as Know-It-Alls?

If you answered yes to many of these questions, you may be married to someone with Obsessive Compulsive Personality Disorder (OCPD). OCPD is a personality disorder that affects millions of people around the world, but it is often misunderstood and misdiagnosed.

People with OCPD are not just neat freaks or workaholics; they are driven by a deep-seated need for control, perfection, and order that can make them difficult to live with and love. In this book, you will learn how to recognize the signs and symptoms and how to cope with the challenges and frustrations of living with an OCPD partner.

The Obsessive Mule is a self-help book that offers practical advice and emotional support for people who are married to spouses with perfectionistic and hostile tendencies, specifically those who have Obsessive Compulsive Personality Disorder (OCPD).

Topics covered are understanding and coping with the challenges of living with an OCPD partner, communicating effectively, how to manage conflicts arising from their aberrant behavior, what to say when they criticize and degrade you and how to set boundaries and limits to protect your own needs and interests.

This book will help you find balance and happiness in your marriage, even if it is already broken. Written by someone who has been married to a person who is stricken with all the traits of OCPD, you get a first hand account of the trials she experienced as well as the solutions gained from professional help. This insider’s view has practical advice on how to handle the extremely challenging situations that being married to an OCPD person encounter.

The author was on the brink of divorce and separated when she sought out professional help and during the course of counseling and researching, gained valuable information that led to saving her marriage.

Free yourself from the confusion that OCPD brings to a relationship, understand the dynamics of interacting with someone with this disorder, heal from the emotional pain and learn how reacting inappropriately actually exacerbates problems in your marriage.

One of the hallmarks of having OCPD is a rigidity and inflexible state of mind that disables the sufferer from being able to have the insight that they actually need professional help. Because of this dilemma, the spouse is left in a precarious situation of realizing that the relationship will remain in its broken state, thus initiating many to divorce. However, many of the problems are caused by the spouse’s ignorance of the OCPD mental mindset and how to effectively manage it.

In this book, you will learn how to maneuver living with your OCPD in order to live in harmony and peace. If you have tried unsuccessfully to get your spouse to seek professional help, this book will give you tools to improve your relationship without counseling. Included are strategies to help you not only get along with your partner better, but to save your sanity. It may even save your marriage.