Love vs. Non-Love

The only force in the universe powerful enough to overcome fear is love.

Love

I wanted the world to be easy, fun, exciting, romantic, and loving. I wanted to be as good as other people or better — the best, even. I wanted to be worthy of love. I wanted to look good and feel good. I wanted to be capable, successful, and happy — the goals set by society and my parents. I wanted to look like I had my life together, as if I knew what I was doing and was doing it well. I wanted my life to feel complete in every way. But no matter what I did, no matter who I was intimately involved with, what friends I had, what job I had, or what stuff I bought, I could never get there — at least not with the way I thought about the world and definitely not with the way I thought about myself. Something had to change. Then one day it did. I learned the truth.

The truth is, there are only two motivating forces in life: love and fear. These emotions incite behaviors that provide us with two diametrically opposed and conflicting life experiences. In one realm exists love in all its glory, with peace, healing, and connective energy. Love is balance. In the other realm exists fear, or non-love. Created as an irrational program in the mind that we blindly follow, nonlove is completely disconnected from the heart and is full of fear, misperception, illness, and loneliness. We have been taught this irrational program and have grown up believing that the program is who we are. This is not true at all. We are not our beliefs or thoughts. We are not anything that is derived from the mind.

Everything that is expressed in a non-loving way is out of balance with everything that is authentic and loving within us. When we think and act in non-loving ways, we are clearly out of balance. So the derogatory words about a family member or co-worker are out of balance, as is consistently eating foods that are unsupportive of good health. These aren't things to feel bad about. That would just be more imbalance. These are merely things to recognize and correct. That's all.

Non-love, or fear, is not to be confused with our built-in primitive fear response called fight, flight, or freeze, which is a natural survival instinct. Mind-created fear is not natural and certainly does not help with our survival in any way. In fact, mind-created fear is responsible for the destruction of our relationships and most of our health issues. It is the reason for arguments, hatred, the killing of the planet, corporate and banking greed, and out-of-control governments. We can see the destruction wrought by mind-created fear in ourselves and in those around us, as well as on the world stage. It all originates from the same place — non-love.

Of the two, love is our natural state. Love is normal. Love is easy. There is no thinking involved with love. For instance, when you look at your children or your dog, you just know the love is there. You don't have to give it any consideration or analysis. Opinion polls among your friends aren't necessary, and you won't stay awake at night contemplating whether you really love your children or your dog. Another example could be when you look at your partner and feel a deep love connection, as if you have always known each other. You didn't think this up. You didn't decide to believe in this love because someone told you about it and it seemed like a good idea. You didn't force it or manipulate it into being. It just happened, as true love does. In our natural state of being, we love others purely, without distraction, restriction, questions, or attachment, because love isn't comprised of conditions and rules. It is not meant to pacify anything within us, solve our problems, or make us feel better about ourselves. Love just is. It is effortless, spontaneous, and genuine. Love is simple.

Love provides us with unmatched clarity to see the deeper dimension within people, rather than just looking at what's on the surface. With love, we know that what's on the surface doesn't define us. With love, we see beyond the anger, hatred, lack of compassion, confusion, and frustration that many of us exhibit when we are in a place of non-love. Instead, we focus on the love that exists beneath all of that. We know that color, religion, race, beliefs, job titles, money, and material possessions create worthless divisions that have no relevance where love exists.

With love, we trust that all is well. In this pure state of being, we are often unaware of the specific universal purpose behind our connections and experiences. But we don't mind, because we automatically know that everything works for our benefit, even if we can't see what that is just yet. Love doesn't create stress, as it knows nothing of regret, worry, or resistance to what is. In this natural state, we know we are not victims of life; we are in harmony with it. We know all situations and all people are working with us to create our life experiences, helping us to gain the greatest benefit from them. From this perspective, we become aware that we are one. All of life is connected, and each individual is an essential part. Everything is meant to help us to remember love. All is divine.

Love carries an energy that is invigorating and alive. Enveloped in love, we don't feel tired; everyday living isn't a chore. There is no complaining and moaning about the laundry. Getting up for work is more pleasant, as are all events of the day. An unexpected occurrence doesn't upset or scare us or make us spiral out of control. With love, we glide through the day in a calmer state, connected to the healing energy within us. Everything can be healed with love: relationships, our health, and our ecosystem. In fact, the power of love to heal everything is limitless.

What Is Non-Love?

Mind-created fear is the same as non-love. I have chosen the term non-love instead of ego, fear, or other similar terms because it is not always easy for us to recognize that our beliefs, thoughts, and actions arise out of our egos or from our fears, both of which come from our sense of lack. Our sense of lack is the foundation of the irrational, mind-based program we have been trained to believe in. Lack creates fear.

While we may not know we are operating through our egos much of...