Love Styles: why you love the way you do (and how to change it)

Why do you love the way you do—and why does love sometimes go wrong?

Every relationship is shaped by something we rarely see: attachment. It’s the invisible wiring that forms in childhood and quietly shapes how we connect, fight, pull away, and come back. In Love Styles, pastor and author Kevin A. Thompson shows how this hidden pattern explains so much of what we experience in life, love, and faith, and how it traces all the way back to Genesis 3.

When sin entered the world, fear and shame replaced safety and connection. We’ve been struggling to love securely ever since. But the good news is that what went wrong in Genesis 3 can be made right again through grace, growth, and God’s love.

Drawing from both psychology and Scripture, Thompson introduces Attachment Theory as a simple framework to help you:

• Identify your attachment pathway—secure, anxious, avoidant, or disorganized

• See how those patterns shape marriage, parenting, work, and faith

• Understand how sin disrupted love—and how Jesus models secure attachment

• Learn to live from a sense of safety, trust, and connection

Full of charts, stories, and biblical insight, Love Styles is the most accessible Christian introduction to Attachment Theory ever written. You’ll discover how to name your patterns, heal your past, and learn to love with the freedom and steadiness God designed from the beginning.