A Longing for Wisdom

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Contents

In Praise of Wisdom (scripture)...................................1Preface...........................................................3Madonnas (scripture)..............................................9Neither Male nor Female (scripture)...............................37Impure Places (scripture).........................................51Lamentations (Csar Vallejo)......................................57The Tragedy of Abortion (essay)...................................85Family Photos.....................................................89Anticipating Grace (scripture)....................................105Afterword: Letter to Patrick (correspondence).....................115About the Author..................................................117

Chapter One

My book opens with poems and stories about brave women. You will recognize the biblical figures, but I also write about unsung contemporary women, all valiant in their own ways. I pay homage to these women by referring to each one as "my lady," the original Italian definition of madonna.

"The first man never finished comprehending wisdom, nor will the last succeed in fathoming her.

For deeper than the sea are her thoughts; her counsels, than the great abyss."

Sirach 24:26–27

Hagar was the Egyptian woman given by the pharaoh to Sarah, Abraham's wife. You'll recall that both Abraham and Sarah were advanced in years and could not have children. But how would Abraham become the father of Israel if he didn't have a son? Scripture tells us that Sarah gave Hagar to Abraham, and that Hagar conceived a son, Ishmael, who Moslems believe to have been their first prophet and the ancestor of Muhammad. We know that, according to Mesopotamian laws at the time (present day Iraq), any offspring of the coupling of Abraham and Hagar would be considered Sarah's son and Abraham's heir. We know that Sarah greatly resented Hagar who, apparently, lorded her pregnancy over Sarah. Ultimately, after Sarah birthed Isaac; after she expelled Hagar and Ishmael into the desert; after they were near death from thirst; after the Lord's messenger appeared to Hagar and told her not to be afraid, that God would make of Ishmael a great nation, and a well appeared so that they could drink, Hagar took Ishmael by the hand, and they continued their journey. Ishmael went on to become the ancestor of the northern Arab people.

    Hagar's Voice

    How did it feel, Hagar, to be offered to
    Abraham by his own wife, the woman
    you served? Did you protest, knowing
    any child you bore would be hers?
    How was it to lie with the ancient man?

    Was he tender with you, or did the tent
    poles shake and the goat skins upon which
    you lay abrade your smooth apple ass,
    the only part unblemished
    by scorching sun and withering work?

    Lost is your side of the story, after Sarah's
    old ovaries finally released an egg and she
    birthed Isaac. She expelled you and your
    toddler Ishmael into the desert. Were you comforted
    when the angel said your boy would change history?

Mary, the mother of Jesus, is the woman I revered as a child. She represented the pinnacle of womanhood. All Catholic girls were taught to model Mary's faith, gentleness, and obedience. While my relationship with her has changed (I no longer recite the rosary every night, a practice I did before falling asleep, well into my forties), I continue to honor her as a brave woman who bore her unorthodox pregnancy with pride and as a woman who gave birth the same way millions of poor women still do. Not only that, she raised quite a son. And, by the way, I still carry a rosary in my purse.

    The House of God

    The Holy Spirit anointed Mary's womb
    to shape the House of God, la casita de Dios,
    where woman's blood fed a divine embryo,
    a divine fetus, a divine baby.

    When nine months had passed,
    Mary pushed Him into the carpenter's hands
    and then, with swollen breasts,
    she suckled God and man with woman's milk.

Martha is the woman we become when we're overwhelmed with
household and professional duties. Who among us would not have
preferred to be Mary, to sit at the Lord's feet? The Lord and Mary,
nevertheless, go to Martha for nourishment.

    Martha

    Host to Christ, she scurried around the
    cook stove, making His lunch (and Mary's).
    All Martha wanted was a little help,
    a little understanding, but, like tired women
    everywhere, who scold their children or
    resent their husband's freedom, she got the
    bum rap while Mary curled up at the Lord's feet,
    just like Martha wanted to do,
    but who would feed them?

In the Catholic Church, Mary of Bethany is often considered the same woman as Mary of Magdala, despite John (11:1-7) who makes a point of identifying her as the sister of Martha and Lazarus. This is just one example of how the names and histories of women within scripture have been eliminated and/or conflated.

    Mary of Bethany

    Adoring Mary, you recognized
    His divinity, you poured fragrant
    oil on His feet. So sensuous an act,
    so profligate your gesture of love,
    you must be that prostitute,
    Mary of Magdala.


    The Woman with a Hemorrhage

    Jairus asked Jesus to heal his daughter,
    but you waylaid Him in that clamorous crowd.
    You had the gall to touch His garment,
    you, an unclean woman who had been bleeding
    for twelve years, had the audacity to stretch
    out your arm and touch His clothing.

    You had suffered greatly under many
    doctors, and having spent all you had,
    those guys still left you with a wounded womb
    that gushed thick dark blood. Had you tried
    to stanch it before you reached for Him
    or had you lost all pride?

    Who touched me?...