The Integrated Man

Previously published as A Handbook For The Recovering Nice Guy by Sidharth Agarwal.
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Excerpts from the Foreword (Foreword written by Dr. Robert Glover, author of No More Mr. Nice Guy)

Sid is passionate about helping men around the world shed the Nice Guy Syndrome and become Integrated Men. He is also single-handedly working to bring the Mankind Project to the men of India. He’s a fucking machine.

As I began to read the pages of this book, I kept thinking, “Yeah, he explained that well,” and “He really did a good job of capturing how my message on this concept has evolved since I wrote NMMNG over 25 years ago.”

For me, that’s the beauty of The Integrated Man; it builds on the concepts I presented in No More Mr. Nice Guy over two decades ago but also further refines and updates them based on what I teach today. Plus, this book contains subjects I now teach that weren’t even on my radar back in 2003, when No More Mr. Nice Guy was published.

The Integrated Man brings No More Mr. Nice Guy into the 2020s.

Subjects that Sid updates and clarifies in The Integrated Man include the concept of covert contracts, abandonment anxiety, and toxic shame —the one-two-punch of the Nice Guy Syndrome —the need for masculine initiation, and boundaries.

Other topics that now show up in my courses, workshops, and more recent books that were not presented in No More Mr. Nice Guy that Sid includes in The Integrated Man include, self-soothing, abundance thinking, rejection sensitivity, the four traits of the Integrated Man, and self-limiting beliefs.

Woven throughout this compact handbook are Sid’s suggestions for ways the reader (you) can apply the principles presented.

I can’t recommend this book highly enough. It is so much more than just a handbook; it is a deep-dive into complex concepts in a quick and easy read – and that’s impressive. But hey, that’s Sidharth.

Robert A. Glover, Ph.D. author of the best-selling No More Mr. Nice Guy
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Praise for the book

Insightful and Practical Guide! Highly Recommended.
"The Handbook does an excellent job describing why inauthentic "Nice Guy" behaviors cause problems and pain and includes practical suggestions for embarking on a journey to become an integrated adult and man. The book is clear and concise.

After reading this Handbook I learned, why rejection sensitivity leads to inauthentic behaviors and how to take reasonable action steps to self soothe and connect with other men who are also on journeys to improve themselves. The suggestions outlined by the author are helping me build the personal power that comes from within and live with more integrity and consciousness.

I like how the book is an honest guide that doesn't promise magical results, but instead offers doable suggestions that author himself has done. This quote from the Epilogue struck me as an excellent highlight of what the book helps the reader to see: "it's easy to get caught up in pursuing a non-existent perfect future while ignoring the beauty and abundance of all that we already have and all that is already lovable about us." - Bill C

Brilliant and succinct
"This book is powerful and concise! It helped me remember how I got to where I am in life and showed me how to change my trajectory. Looking forward to using it with my clients as well!" - Seth Jones

A fantastic read
"Sidharth is a fantastic men’s coach! I was so excited when I learnt about his book. I specifically liked 2 aspects - a) how it alerts nice guys to their blind spots, and b) the balance of theory and practice. Highly recommend Sidharth’s coaching work and his book!" - S.K.