Peace and authenticity are inseparable. Your purpose in life is to Be Yourself. YOU are the One. Many women and men have used Finding The One principles and processes to find "The One" within, and consequently an amazing mate! Finding The One is an accumulation of life changing wisdom, tools to discover your innate worth, and inspirational teachings. Each of the 41 small chapters contain the message of the entire book; this gives the necessary support to find the one and empowers the reader to apply the teachings to everyday life. Chapters contain Finding the One Love principles, suggestions for application and a "spiritual sex in the city" like dating quips. The Perceived Protector section contains additional processes for clearing limiting beliefs and letting down walls. The Master’s Paper section is the scientific, historical, religious, and Eco-psychology base for connecting to "The One" through holistic sexuality, nature, and body intimacy.
Finding the One
By Barbra WhiteBalboa Press
Copyright © 2016 Barbra White
All rights reserved.
ISBN: 978-1-5043-6084-5Contents
Introduction, ix,
Suggestions for Use, xv,
Why Is Self-Acceptance a Focus In Finding the One?, 1,
The Guest House, 3,
Receiving Love and the True Nature of Power, 9,
Reclaim Your Innocence, 15,
Greater Abundance Is Waiting, 20,
Courage To Be YOU, 28,
Peace is NOT Passive, 34,
Summary of Finding the One Love Principles, 42,
Your Greatness Will "Bite You In The Butt!", 44,
Living the Life Of Your Dreams, 50,
Surrender and Freedom - Embracing a New Day, 57,
Are You Ready To Be "Born Again" into Love?, 62,
Are You Willing to Grow Into the Next Greatest Version of True Magnificence?, 67,
Summary of Finding The One Love Principles, 72,
The Rebel (Why Don't I Do the Things I Know Are Good for Me?), 76,
Do I Enjoy Feeling Not Good Enough?, 82,
Do You Want A Life Of Greater Prosperity And Love???, 86,
Will of God - Heart of God Understanding the Masculine and Feminine Gift, 91,
Trusting Yourself--Discernment, 101,
Simply Be Yourself, 105,
Your Soul's Purpose, 110,
Initiation into Greatness, 115,
Initiation into Greatness: Levels One through Four, 121,
"Who Says Nothing Is Personal??" (Non-Violent Communication), 142,
Commit to 'Self' and You Will Be Claimed By Love-God, 150,
Waiting on Love?, 155,
Summary of Finding the One Love Principles, 160,
**The World NEEDS YOU, 162,
**Sacred Service, 170,
**Confidently Humble, 176,
You Are Beyond Amazing!, 182,
**Your Body Our Earth, 188,
**Your Spiritual Vocation, 192,
**Live On Purpose, 199,
Summary of Finding the One Love Principles, 204,
Radiant Joy, 206,
Letting Life Love You, 212,
Learning how to RECEIVE Love, 219,
Courage to Live as Love, 225,
Are YOU A Teacher Of Love Or Fear?, 229,
Change Your Life Through Love, 235,
You Are Gorgeous, 241,
What Does a Real Spiritual Partnership Look Like?, 246,
Bold Enough To Be Whole, 250,
Living In Prosperity, 256,
Letting Yourself Be Loved, 263,
A Whole New Life Is Waiting for YOU, 268,
Summary of Finding the One Love Principles, 275,
Clearing Your Blocks to Letting Yourself Be Loved Using creative visualizations, 277,
Perceived Protector Work, 279,
Love and Sexuality are One? Introduction to Master's Thesis, 283,
About the Author, 347,
CHAPTER 1
Why Is Self-Acceptance a Focus In Finding the One?
We close off and protect ourselves in an effort to prevent future harm, but ultimately cause the very pain we are seeking to prevent. Each chapter reinforces and reminds you of the immense benefit of opening up and letting in the good that is waiting for you. Your life is waiting to be fully lived. This book will inspire the remembrance of your inherent goodness and caress you into allowing the abundance that is seeking to be expressed as you.
You are enough. Being you, is more than enough. In fact, being you is the key to happiness, healing others, and love. Your authentic self cannot be made in the material world or discovered through study. Your authentic self is uncovered through self-love, feeling your emotions, and expressing the writing Creation has written on your heart.
No matter your current occupation, you can be a healer and an inspiration to others. When you internally give yourself full permission to be you, you set others free. Whatever we perceive is lacking in a relationship it is something we are now allowing within ourselves (Teaching from A Course in Miracles). Whether you are single or in a relationship when you realize the One within, you align with the incredible partner waiting for you. Your vibration raises others to meet you.
Why is self-love and inward "opening up" so powerful? Because life will match how you feel about yourself. As you love "your crazy," you realize your innate wholeness and beauty. What you judge or repress gets bigger, and what you accept releases. Self-acceptance is logical when you realize that the lens you look through is the life you live. How you see yourself is how you see the world.
We all need to be reminded to clean the smudges on the lens, not through more self-criticism or blame, but through love. As you look within and compassionately witness your feelings and thoughts, you open up to the unified field of love. Allow your life to be seen through a clearer lens. The good is waiting for you! It is hard to see through the smudges!
Thank you for loving yourself. Every person that lets more of their inner light be seen and expressed directly affects their body, their family, their community, and our/the world. The world needs you to love yourself. You are an important thread in the fabric of Creation.
CHAPTER 2
The Guest House
Tasting love in your cells and feeling the divine expressing through your life starts with self-acceptance. Holding within your psyche that you are both a fragile, vulnerable human and a magnificent, gifted, powerful being is one key to happiness. Most of us are identified as broken and insecure, or powerful and amazing. But what if we are all both?
We all have the duality of our humanity and our divinity. This perceived separation and contrast is more apparent to those that dare to achieve. For example, most gifted artists don't have the psychological foundation to handle their talents. Experiencing the genius of their craft while having the vulnerabilities of being human can drive someone mad. I understand why Robin Williams couldn't accept himself. I saw a similar split in myself when I stepped into my gifts fifteen years ago. I was able to facilitate great healing in sessions for others, but when I left the healing room the insecure little girl rose up to be loved. Feeling "her" fear and insecurity with compassion, I realized more gifts and let myself be loved in the process.
Spiritually, when you accept your humanity you realize the next layer of your divinity. Your vulnerabilities are the fertilizer to realizing a greater you. What you perceive as weakness is actually a strength.
We all crave interdependence, connection, or oneness. When guided by narcissism and selfishness, we search for love and identity outside of ourselves. When we honor our humanity (vulnerabilities, feelings, and thoughts) we organically feel a greater connection to our full Self (divinity). When we feel this inward permission and love, we then feel safe to be loved by a group, by Life, and God. It is "lonely at the top" only when we forget our own humanity. In humility, peace and true love is found.
When you accept yourself as an equal, and do not place yourself beneath or above anyone else, you stop denying your feelings and trying to painfully rescue another from their self. When you know yourself as magnificent and flawed, you touch the cosmos. You stop giving your authority to be happy over to a loved one or boss.
When you feel discomfort around someone, it is not because of them. No one has the power to make you feel any certain way. When you don't give your feelings or expression permission, your ability to simply be yourself is suffocated. Anything you use to shield yourself will eventually lock you in a house of your own suffering. Peace and authenticity are inseparable. Inner peace is a practice of being in the world without hiding your feelings, or trying to impress. When you allow...