Claim Your Life

Balboa Press

Contents

Foreword...........................................................xiIntroduction.......................................................1Getting Started....................................................4Choosing to Begin..................................................4Choosing to See Where You Are Now..................................5So What Do You Want?...............................................11Choosing What You Want.............................................11Experiencing What You Want.........................................24Choosing to Experience What You Want...............................24Choosing to Experience What You Want Every Day.....................28Clearing Blocks....................................................36Choosing to Clear Blocks...........................................36Personal Stories...................................................52Personal Stories...................................................52True Freedom.......................................................73True Freedom.......................................................73

Chapter One

Thinking is easy, acting is difficult, and to put one's thoughts into action is the most difficult thing in the world. —Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

Honestly, I've tried countless times to "redefine" my life. I really want to start living the way I've always wanted to live: I want to get organized; I want to make time for what I love to do; and I want to relax and enjoy my interests, hobbies and relationships. I get all motivated; I do tons of work to "de-stress" and "re-order" my life and career; and, somehow, it all inevitably goes back to stressful square one ...

I've tried so many times to find and make healthy relationships, whether finding new relationships or improving relationships I already have. I make up my mind to work on myself, to communicate, to set boundaries, to do everything I think I'm supposed to do ... but somehow I still end up feeling unfulfilled and taken for granted. I can't seem to get anywhere ... It seems like a loop. I'm left feeling depleted, lonely, and uncertain that this cycle will ever change for me ...

I've almost given up on trying to lose weight. It's a heartbreaking cycle for me. I feel embarrassed. I get motivated, I get a plan, I work so hard, and then I hit a wall. I either run out of steam or get knocked on my butt by getting sick, injured, or some crisis coming up—something! I fall back, frustrated and exasperated, and judge myself for failing ... again ...

Many of us want to change some aspects of ourselves, our lives, or our relationships. Some of us are simply looking to enhance what we already enjoy in our lives, while some of us are looking for a total overhaul to completely remodel ourselves, our life situations and our relationships. Either way we may truly struggle to achieve the changes we seek due to unconscious beliefs we unknowingly hold about ourselves or about life in general. Without realizing it, deep down we may believe that the life we dream of living is "too much" to expect, that we are not fully worthy, or that life just isn't like that.

Unconscious beliefs are just that, totally unconscious. You don't even know that they are there. They are the internalized voices of generations of outside influences, operating like your own personal programming, and they dictate how you perceive yourself, your life, and the world around you. Some of your unconscious beliefs may be serving you very well, and some of them may not be serving you at all. But, either way, your unconscious beliefs drive your life. They are your eyes, your ears and your every assumption. They tell you what is possible and not possible for you, limiting your freedom, choice and happiness.

These unconscious beliefs then sabotage our efforts to create the changes we seek in our lives because, left hidden, our unconscious beliefs will always reinforce the status quo. If I unconsciously believe that I am unworthy, for whatever reason, then I will unknowingly seek out people and situations that "match" that belief. I will unknowingly surround myself with people and situations that reinforce that I am unworthy. I will unknowingly seek out relationships with others that do not treat me with the level of love, value, or respect that all people deserve, because deep down I don't believe that I deserve that same level. When I encounter people who do show me that I am worthy, I will dismiss those people by thinking they are mistaken, inferior, or have ulterior motives. And, when I get motivated to improve some aspect of my life or relationships, I will encounter great difficulty because I will be unknowingly up against my unconscious belief that I am not worthy of the improvements I seek.

In working the steps of Claim Your Life, you will systematically reveal these unconscious beliefs, uncovering them so they can be uprooted and replaced with healthy beliefs that empower you and support the changes you seek. This process will put you in the power seat of your life, ushering you into the ideal life you deserve.

Claim Your Life is brief but intense. It is exactly the information you need, no more and no less. The steps of this process are simple, but they are not always easy. Some soul-searching and consistency will be necessary, but the steps are straightforward and broken down into an easy-to-follow workbook format, complete with exercises and examples to support you every step of the way.

Through clear workbook exercises, Claim Your Life will help you master five intensely powerful steps to creating the life you choose:

1. You decide exactly and specifically what you want.

2. You focus consistently on experiencing what you want.

3. You watch for distractions or "blocks" between you and what you want to reveal themselves.

4. When a block comes up, you work the steps to uncover the unproductive belief behind the block.

5. You then uproot and replace your unproductive belief with an empowering belief that supports you having what you want.

The impact of these five steps is profound. Clearly understanding these five steps and applying them to your life is the key to unfolding your new reality. Once you begin working these steps, you will find yourself positively glowing with freedom, power, and choice. The process itself is so empowering that you will begin to see every "block" as an opportunity for growth and adventure. Your fulfillment and excitement will grow as you uproot unwanted beliefs and embrace the life you want ... the life you choose.

Chapter Two

It is by going down into the abyss that we recover the treasures of life.—Joseph Campbell

Choosing to Begin

Choosing to begin is very brave. While almost everyone would like to change some aspect of their lives, very few people are willing to attempt it. By your bravery, you also reveal your personal belief that change is possible for you. You accurately hold...