CHAPTER 1
WHAT'S IN IT FOR YOU?
My work as a business consultant and coach for the past twenty-five plus years has brought me in contact with hundreds of business people. Most of my clients work in privately owned businesses selling and servicing industrial machinery such as construction equipment, agricultural equipment, pumps, compressors, material handling equipment, commercial tires, and on and on. The respect I have for the leaders/ owners/managers of these businesses is tremendous. My interactions with these men (yes, by far at least ninety-eight percent are men) range from operational (how to run their businesses) to personal (how their lives are functioning).
I have also provided life coaching to many people throughout the years. While my business consulting and coaching has been with men, my life coaching experiences have been mostly with women. These experiences have put me in the unique position of being privy to the personal ups and downs of all these people. So, whether you are a business person, stay-at-home man or woman, the strategies and structures of this workbook will assist you in enhancing your life.
Let's look at an example.
John's Lack of Balance
John pulled me aside at a meeting so that we could speak away from the others in the group. He said that his wife was unhappy with his focus on the business to the detriment of their relationship. He knew that he had lost touch with his children and couldn't tell me much about their high school years. He was proud of his accomplishments at work and was confused because he felt that providing financial security for his family was his reason for being. He asked me what he should do.
Because John felt he was the key element to the continued success of his company, he feared relinquishing control of his business. He demanded that his executive team and his managers put in the same amount of time, energy, and commitment that he did. Now he was beginning to understand that a large contributor to the turnover in personnel was due to a culture that equated long hours with good performance which led to a lack of life balance for his employees.
John began to examine his life using the Boom Life methodology and it became very clear that he lacked satisfaction in several areas of his life. Adjustments were difficult but he made them and these adjustments lead to better relationships with his wife, his family, his friends, and his staff.
John is not alone, everyone needs to take stock of what is happening to the entire landscape of their lives at least once a year and make adjustments to areas that are "out of balance." Why? The answer is very personal to each individual; but for the most part, this issue of balance enhances your life: it brings on a Boom Life!
Riding Your Bike
Albert Einstein said it best: "Life is like riding a bicycle. To keep your balance you have to keep moving." Welcome to your bicycle/life-enhancement. You may have tried to make life improvements in the past without much success. Even though you feel capable, you may struggle to figure out how to truly change or what to change. This comprehensive program will help you pinpoint how your limiting thoughts and beliefs are currently blocking your progress. Through a series of questions and visualizations, you will begin to ignite the profound changes you've been craving in each area of your life.
What does it take to ride your bike through your life? Well you will need a good set of wheels. If you prefer a unicycle, it will be one big wheel. If you prefer a more traditional bicycle, it will need two wheels. As you get older you may trade your bike in for an adult tricycle. No matter how many wheels you have you will have to check those wheels for leaks, weaknesses, nails, and the like. You also have to keep moving, in other words you have to get up and out and live your life. Without movement you lose your balance and will fall off your bike. It is simply all the areas of your life that work together as a system. I have found eight major life areas that make up the wheel. In no particular order these areas are:
Health - Environment - Finances - Career - Family - Social/Fun – Intimate Relationship - Spirituality.
Look at these eight life elements as spokes on your wheels. If one spoke is smaller than the others the wheel will not run efficiently. If there are several areas that are "off" then the wheel may not roll at all. The reality is that some of you may not have one of the life areas above. For instance, if you are retired or have enough money that you do not need to work – congratulations; you may not have the Career spoke. But the other areas of your life are there, so instead of wheels with eight spokes, you have seven. You might add a life area which is important to you which is great. What you can't do is eliminate too many life sections because the strength of your wheels will become compromised the fewer spokes you have. The rounder the tires and the more you are proactive, the more balance and satisfaction with life and the easier it is to ride that bike.
CHAPTER 2
BALANCE
It is important to understand how the concept of "balance" is used here. At first blush, you might think of time as the balance element. If this were the case then to have balance you would have to put an equal amount of time into each of the eight life elements. This is not practical or achievable.
When I speak of balance I am measuring the amount of satisfaction a person has in each of the eight life elements as well as the activity of life itself. As you dig into this workbook I will guide you to examine each of the eight life elements and determine your level of satisfaction with each one. The act of completing this workbook (especially on a yearly basis) will provide the momentum you need to maintain your balance.
To achieve balance we are looking for satisfaction ratings in all eight areas that are within one point of each other. A satisfied life will have ratings in the four to five range. Now, if your ratings are all low - two or below you do not have a balanced life because balance is about satisfaction and happiness, you need to work to lift up each life area.
My Story
Every year for the past twenty-five plus years I have completed what I consider to be a life audit. I look at the eight life areas and rate each one as to how satisfied I am with it and then work on the areas that are out of whack.
In the year 2000, I found that my satisfaction with my career was lower than I expected. It was to the point that I had lost some of my motivation. After reflecting on my career, I realized that to improve my satisfaction I would need to go back to school. I wanted to focus more on the psychological and behavioral side of running a business. I wanted my Master's degree. But how could I do this? I was working full time and traveling; my time with family and friends was stretched already; I was involved in two nonprofit organizations (on their Board of Directors); and more.
How did I do it? I looked to the other seven areas of my life and asked them to give a little for the next few years and it worked. I kept up my health regimen. I asked family and friends to be patient with me while I focused on my studies. I talked to my husband about my decision and he got on board quickly. I asked for a partial leave of absence from work and...