THE TRANSFORMATION

The first thing you need to do is love you. Understand who you are and what you have accomplished and what kind of life you want for you. This will take some thought and you may want to write it down. Loving oneself is not easy to do. I have had to count all the good things I have done for me as well as for others. I've had to change all the things I didn't like about me. All the ones I could like the way I spoke the way I walked and the way I looked at others. If you can change your hair change it. If you cannot change something like a mole or birthmark learn to love it. Know that it is unique and no other person has that same one. I like to think you are the one that's been touched by the angels. Making your own positive affirmations so you can read them every day helps, hanging them everywhere is a fantastic way of changing the way you feel about you. I promise your eyes always read what's in front of us. It's a force of habit. Especially when it's printed big enough that we see it at glance. Across from the toilet beside the mirror where we sit to eat as well as where you hang out. Hang them up and before you know it you will believe them all. You will see changes starting to happen. You will feel stronger as you start liking yourself you will feel better about all the things you have accomplished because now you have a list to look at often. You can hold your head high and look into others eyes. By this time you will know your self-worth.

DON'T FORGET TO COMPLETE YOUR THOUGHT PROCESS

We all do things on fast thoughts. Don't let yourself be one of these people who only think in the moment or because you think you need. I used to think with desperation I made choices because I had to be quick. Sometimes I believed I was in love. They said they loved me, because I was desperate for someone to love me I believed everyone who said they did. Rather than the ones who showed me they did. There are many people looking for lonely souls. So don't get caught up in that. If you love you then you won't be desperate for anyone else to love you. You cannot fall victim to their cruel jokes. Do not live with past regrets. Because of me not finishing my thought process and being desperate while not liking me, this made me do things I would later regret. I've learned we do not need to carry this shame with us for the rest of our life. If we have done something we are ashamed of, we can fix it. We can become Okay with it or change the outcome of it. A story comes to mind as I write this. A young girl believed she was in love with a young man. She sent him a picture of her body, her shell. He or someone else got it and shared it with the world. Not before making her feel shame guilt and embarrassed. Then all her friends saw it and made her feel worse. She believed the only way to stop her pain was to kill herself. So she did. If she was here today I'd tell her it was just her shell. Our shell is only to hold our spirit and our soul. It holds the stuff that makes us strong the things that make us love. And it is only one small portion of you. It does not affect your heart in any way, nor is there any real attachment to it. We can leave our shell at any time. But always have to come back to it. So my friends love your shell, do not ever be ashamed of it. Don't let anyone make you feel ashamed of it. Just remember not everyone has to see it. It is the one true gift that once it's opened it can never be taken back. Your shell, your body is the one true gift you can give the one you truly love. If you love you first then you will know who truly loves you. If you carry shame or guilt find a way to come to terms with it or change it if you can. If you carry it, it will only weigh you down and make you not love you. If this happens you could be setting yourself up for weakness and the chances of a bully finding you are very high.

To all my dear friends out there, if you are now being bullied please hold your head high. Please know you can change things. You don't have to change the bully, you have to change you. If you can change your thoughts you can change your feelings. This will change your entire outcome.

WAYS I LEARNED HOW TO LOVE ME

One of the hardest things for me was to believe no one is better than me and I was no better than anyone else. Positive affirmations really helped me with this. Understanding a bully will give you a better way of seeing things. Seeing things differently will result in different actions as well as different reactions. What do you know about them, why are they the way they are? Is it all you or do they have issues too. Again being a bully is a learned behavior. So you need to know the answer is 'yes', they do have their own issues. Someone is or was a bully to them. Someone makes them feel small makes them feel worthless or even unwanted, so monkey see monkey do.

Count all your achievements get your real friends to help you with this, count every single good quality you have. Again your friends and loved ones will gladly help you. Write them all down and keep adding to this list. Before long you will see just how wonderful you are. Set goals for yourself. If you set a goal for yourself it will give you something to stay focused on. You can achieve anything you want by setting steps too it, time limits then the sky's the limit. By achieving goals you add to your 'wonderful you' list and you will feel yourself getting stronger and starting to see just how wonderful you truly are. You will hold your head higher, you will feel good about you and you will become stronger. The bullies won't see you coming they focus on weaker people. Do the things you enjoy and don't worry if anyone is watching you. No matter what, people will talk about you so the best way to get them saying the right things about you is to start your own rumors for instance, your life is fantastic you're stronger than ever and you no longer will live in fear or guilt or shame. Because you know everyone will do whatever it takes to get what they need. And my dear friends we all need? so we believe. Always remember what you feel about yourself on the inside your aura will show it on the outside. Will it leave you looking weak and ready to be bullied or will it show you love yourself and no matter what others say you are Okay with you? Always remember where you came from and don't forget your bully, instead remember the day you forgot to love yourself because it's the same day they did too. Don't beat yourself up we all make mistakes we all make bad choices. We all say things out of hurt feelings. The way around this is to speak from your heart. If it is not with love don't say it. Take time to filter your thoughts and feelings before you make any life altering decisions. Not always do we need to talk about things. But rather assess our thoughts and feelings so we can adjust our actions that will then adjust our outcome. Way too often we speak in fear or judgment or desperation and...