The Best Sex of my Life

Trafford Publishing

Contents

Dedication......................................................................viiAcknowledgements................................................................ixIntroduction....................................................................xi1. My Confession................................................................12. Preface To The Confessions of A Sexual Purity Revolution.....................313. Gareth's Confession..........................................................344. Confessions of a Sexual Purity Revolution, Part I............................405. Confessions of a Sexual Purity Revolution, Part II...........................826. The Best Sex of My Life......................................................917. Restoration..................................................................99Confession For a Relationship...................................................103Sexual Purity Confession Covenant...............................................105About The Author................................................................109Worth The Wait Revolution Contact Information...................................111

Chapter One

Virgin? At first they really didn't believe me. Could I really be a 30+ year old virgin? Many people were curious. How could you be attractive and still be a virgin? How could you be successful and still be a virgin? How could you be 'normal' and still be a virgin? The "Worth The Wait" lady, was my nickname for a while. Travelling throughout the country with a message of sexual purity, a book entitled, The Best Sex of My Life: a guide to purity, and a desire to see this generation make better sexual choices; people's lives began to change and become impacted by the REVOLUTION. Worth The Wait Revolution began hosting annual Runway Events in 2006 and Annual Galas in 2008, with the theme of "sexual purity with contemporary style and urban class". The face of abstinence, celibacy and purity was in the process of being completely revamped. I began to openly and transparently share my journey toward sexual purity; the good, the bad and the not-so-good. Although I was a virgin, I had participated in various acts that were unacceptable or displeasing to the Lord, such as masturbation, humping, "bumpin & grindin", and the like. I had been exposed to pornography as a child. I had my experience of 'touching' and playing 'house' as a child. I made my life an open book. Yes, I was a virgin, and yes, I had made poor choices. However, through and by a real desire to please God, application of practical principals from the Word of God, and good spiritual leadership, I obtained victory. The Bible clearly states that "... we overcome by the blood of the Lamb and by the word of our testimony" (Revelation 12:11). I was inspired in 2006 to write my first book, so that through my testimony, others could be inspired to walk in sexual purity, regardless of their past encounters.

Now, I'm inspired to write this book because there are many stories of victory and great triumph to be told. The Worth The Wait Revolution has impacted the lives of thousands and very soon, millions, through our books, DVDs, audio books, Runway Events, Galas, Sexual Purity Real Conversations and more. I'm very humbled and thankful to God for being chosen to represent this REVOLUTION for such a time as this.

Unfortunately, in 2011 statistics from the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) revealed that 70% of African-American children are born to unwed parents and moreover, the CDC reports that in 2012, one-half of the 19 million new STD cases will occur among those from ages 15-24. African-Americans are the highest at risk. In spite of those statistics, God is raising us up as a new standard. Isaiah 59:19 states, "When the enemy shall come in like a flood, the Spirit of the LORD shall lift up a standard against him." You and I are the standard! We have been called to be the standard in this generation. During a time when sexploitation, adultery, child pornography, homosexuality, same-sex marriage and perversion are flooding our culture, God has declared you and me to be the standard. He desires to 'lift up' those who choose to be a part of this sexual purity REVOLUTION. I believe you are reading this book, at this very moment because you sense the inward calling and assignment to be the 'salt and the light'. Jesus announced our identity, saying:

"You are the salt of the earth: but if the salt has lost its flavor, wherewith shall it be salted? It is thenceforth good for nothing, but to be cast out, and to be trodden under foot of men. You are the light of the world. A city that is set on a hill cannot be hid. Neither do men light a candle and put it under a bushel, but on a candlestick. And, it gives light unto all that are in the house. Let your light so shine before men, that they may see your good works, and glorify your Father which is in heaven". Matthew 5:13-16 (NKJV)

The Message Bible truly brings this scripture to life. It reads:

"Let me tell you why you are here. You're here to be salt-seasoning that brings out the God-flavors of this earth. If you lose your saltiness, how will people taste godliness? You've lost your usefulness and will end up in the garbage. Here's another way to put it: You're here to be light, bringing out the God-colors in the world. God is not a secret to be kept. We're going public with this, as public as a city on a hill. If I make you light-bearers, you don't think I'm going to hide you under a bucket, do you? I'm putting you on a light stand. Now that I've put you there on a hilltop, on a light stand—shine! Keep open house; be generous with your lives. By opening up to others, you'll prompt people to open up with God, this generous Father in heaven". Matthew 5: 13-16 (MSG)

Wow! Enough said!

MY DISTRACTIONS

Before I met my husband I was, at various times, preoccupied with other guys who I thought, were my husband. You know how we do, ladies! We RUN with it! If we think someone is our husband (ladies) or our wife (fellas), we RUN with it!! We jump in! Head first!! Have you ever heard of the movie, "He's Just Not That Into You"? Well, one particular guy was just not that into me. What a newsflash. Can you believe it? Me? Yes, me! As singles, I know we walk by faith but sometimes we get beyond the faith process and enter into foolishness and presumption. I regret wasting so much time, consumed by the 'idea' of relationships that proved to be fruitless. I was never physically involved with these guys, but I wish I could get back the time I spent on the phone calls, emails, text messages, planning and day-dreaming. Sometimes, we need to learn how to stop stalking people. (I've been there. Don't get mad at me. I love you and because I love you, I must tell you the truth. Real relationships do not require stalking on Facebook, Twitter or Instagram.)

Honestly, I'm so thankful that the Lord did not allow me to go down those paths, because sometimes the person that we envision to be 'the one' is quite frankly, 'the wrong one' on so many levels. They are totally wrong for our mission, wrong for our mandate and wrong for our spiritual maturity in Christ. Furthermore, if someone does not recognize your worth and value, they are not worthy of your time and affection. Sometimes, we are so...