Friends in the Life You Have: How to Make and Keep Adult Friendships When Your Week Is Already Full - Softcover

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You can have people you like and still have nobody to see on a day off.

Friends in the Life You Have is a practical guide to making friends and keeping them as an adult, when your week is already full of work, family, errands and tiredness. It deals with the logistics that stall plans: the long trip, the days off that never match, the cost of hosting. It also deals with the part that feels exposing, which is asking, and wondering whether anyone would welcome it.

It is written for adults who are starting from very little, for people who have friends but rarely see them, and for anyone whose circle changed after a move, a job, a baby, caring for a parent, a separation or retirement.

Inside you will find how to:

• Find a place you can return to, so a friendship gets a second and third meeting
• Invite someone in a way that is easy to answer, and read a slow reply at its real size
• Be known in ordinary conversation without a big confession
• Ask for help and offer it, with limits both people can keep
• Stay in touch between meetings, including across distance and time zones
• Raise it when you are the one doing most of the reaching
• Talk about a disappointment, and recognize a friendship that is drifting or ending
• Rebuild after a move, a separation, retirement, or a season of parenting and care

Every chapter ends with a Working Page with room to write: one decision you can use outside the book. The back of the book has Scripts to Borrow, ten groups of lines for inviting, naming a limit, asking for help and talking about a hurt. The last chapter turns it all into a 12-week plan.

The suggestions are things to try. How another person responds is up to them, and the book says so, including when the kind move is to stop pursuing someone who has asked for distance.

This book is for reflection and general information. It is not therapy, a diagnosis, or a substitute for professional care.

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