For Young Men Only: A Guy's Guide to the Alien Gender - Hardcover

Feldhahn, Jeff; Rice, Eric

 
9781601420206: For Young Men Only: A Guy's Guide to the Alien Gender
Hardcover
ISBN 10: 160142020X ISBN 13: 9781601420206
Verlag: Multnomah, 2008

Inhaltsangabe

Just for guys…the inside scoop on girls from the girls themselves.

Okay, the authors aren't girls. But to bring you the facts they surveyed more than 1,000 of them. Every teen guy wants to know how girls are wired, what they want, and how they really think…

Or at least how to talk to a girl without feeling like an idiot.

Here's your chance to find out.

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Über die Autorin bzw. den Autor

Jeff Feldhahn is an attorney and the owner of the tech company, World2One. With his wife, Shaunti, he wrote the best selling For Men Only.

Eric Rice is the owner/director/producer of 44 Films. Eric lives in Atlanta area with his wife, Lisa, and their four teenage children.

Shaunti Feldhahn is a nationally syndicated newspaper columnist, public speaker, and best-selling author whose books include For Women Only, For Young Women Only (with Lisa Rice) and For Parents Only.

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Chapter One: What Most Guys Never Know

To find the truth, we take you to the ultimate source–more than one thousand of them

There are so many reasons why you don’t need this book. You don’t need it to know how to text a girl in the middle of a rollercoaster ride. Or to build a computer on your bedroom floor. Or to belch the alphabet in tune, or kill a city full of zombies with just your thumbs, or sink your famous no-look jump shot.

All that you can already do.

And for all those reasons you are already…legend.

On the other hand, like most young males you live among aliens who don’t know or appreciate your achievements. The aliens, of course, are girls. Some of them, especially the cute ones, have the power to make you stutter, shake, and fall on your behind right when you want to look your coolest.

You know it’s true. Girls drive us crazy. They can turn a famous jump shot into nothing but air. They can make us so confused we want to scream.

So we have to ask, will you–male legend–survive girls with your coolness intact?

Plenty of guys don’t. We know. Well, at least I (Eric) know. When I was a teen, I drove all the way from Texas to Tennessee on a hot day just to hear a girl say, “Bye, Eric.” Very hot, very bad day.

All that stuff about stutter, shake, and fall down? That was me. Most of what I learned about girls was from urban legends or in locker rooms or by guesswork. And most of what I learned was dead wrong. That’s why we decided to write FYMO, which is code for For Young Men Only: A Guy’s Guide to the Alien Gender.

Now that we’re post-cool but also post-stuttering grownups, we want to help teen guys understand, talk to, listen to, get to know, learn from, care for, enjoy…maybe even impress a girl. Sure, it’s not quite as lofty a goal as stopping terrorism or bringing back the glaciers. But it’s something smart guys care about–and smart girls too. Understanding how girls think can make a huge difference in your happiness now and in the future. Even better, a crash course in Girl 101 can put you way ahead of most other guys, who will spend the rest of their lives being totally confused.

In the book you’re holding, enlightenment starts with you. You bring your legendary genius. We bring our shocking data. Pretty soon you can get inside her head.

“No Way!”

Yes, FYMO takes you inside a teen girl’s head (scary but fascinating, you have to admit). We help you accomplish that feat by listening to hundreds of smart, attractive girls who were willing to talk about themselves–and keep it honest. (And if you think we hunted down only boring, shallow, or unappealing girls for this project, jump to foryoungmenonlybook.com. You’ll get a different picture.)

How are we able to deliver insights that will get you shouting “No way!” and change how you think forever?

Let me (Jeff ) explain. Shaunti, my wife, just happens to be a Harvard-trained policy analyst who unexpectedly became a social researcher. One day she woke up to the fact that men really do think differently than women. (Okay, sometimes we don’t think at all, but let’s not go there.) Shaunti realized that even though she loved someone as smooth as me, she simply didn’t get a lot about me. Not just didn’t get. More like had no clue.

And here’s the weirdest part: I had no clue that she had no clue.

When Shaunti asked around, she discovered that our problem was a common one. In fact, she talked to men and women from all over who had simply given up on thinking that you could understand someone of the opposite sex, even one you loved very much. That realization prompted her to launch a research project that asked men how they really felt about certain topics. Especially about some of the more hidden, difficult, and important aspects of being a man. Their answers led Shaunti to write For Women Only: What You Need to know about the inner lives of men.

It became a national bestseller. Men everywhere breathed a sigh of relief because suddenly they weren’t treated like freaks. And women everywhere realized they could know and love their man for who he really was, not for who they thought he was. We’re still amazed at how often just one new insight about the opposite sex can turn a light bulb on over our heads–and turn a relationship completely around.

Other bestsellers in the series followed, including For Men Only and For Young Women Only. Each of them uses a carefully designed, nationally representative scientific survey to help one gender understand what goes on inside the heads of the other.

Which brings us to FYMO.

Honestly, we delayed bringing out this installment in the series as long as possible. Would your average teen guy read a book about how girls think? Watch a YouTube clip maybe. Or wait for the manga version. But actually read a carefully researched book about how to figure out and relate to girls? We weren’t sure.

At first it was just worried parents and about a million teen girls who asked us to write this book. Parents said things like, “Our darling son seems somewhat, oh, challenged around the opposite, you know, s-s-sex.” Girls said things like, “Boys are just stupid.”

Then teen guys themselves started asking. After the hundredth high schooler told us he wished there were a “chick manual” for ordinary guys, we decided to go for it.

Our No-Rehash Promise

Shaunti and I (Jeff) enlisted my best buddy, Eric Rice (the husband of Lisa, Shaunti’s coauthor on For Young Women Only), to help me write this book. Being a talented screenwriter and director, Eric makes the perfect coauthor. Also, he’s father to three of the smartest, most attractive teen girls we know. Also, he’s insane. (Maybe it’s the teenage daughters.)

To make sure we were asking the right questions, Eric and I started with some things we never understood about girls when we were in high school. Then we set up focus groups with dozens of Atlanta-area teenage girls. With Lisa and Shaunti helping to host the groups (so the girls felt they could talk safely and candidly), we started to identify important problem areas to cover.

Interesting questions came naturally to our team. Lisa is a journalist, Shaunti is a relationship analyst, I’m a lawyer, and Eric is crazy.

To every potential topic we applied one important test: would it be a big surprise for today’s teenage guys? If not, we weren’t interested. We didn’t want to rehash the obvious stuff. We didn’t want to preach. We just wanted to go for those shockers that most guys wouldn’t believe–but that were true…and were true for most girls, no matter their ethnic or religious backgrounds, no matter where they live or what kind of cars their families drive.

Next, Shaunti and Lisa hit the malls around Atlanta to ask questions of hundreds of teens. And since they regularly travel and speak around the country, they also randomly interviewed any teenage girls they came across (“So, Courtney, what would you be thinking if a guy said this…?”).

Finally, we took what we were hearing informally and tested it with an expensive, scientific, nationally representative survey of more than four hundred girls, conducted by the highly regarded firm Decision Analyst. If we were going to claim that girls really did think a certain way, then an official, expensive national survey had to confirm it. (Did we mention it was...

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Verlag
Multnomah
Erscheinungsdatum
2008
Sprache
Englisch
ISBN 10 
160142020X
ISBN 13 
9781601420206
Einband
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Anzahl der Seiten
192
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