Doable: The Girls' Guide to Accomplishing Just About Anything - Softcover

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Deborah Reber’s teen books include Doable, Language of Love, Chill, In Their Shoes, and Chicken Soup for the Teenage Soul: The Real Deal. She is also the founding editor-in-chief for Heart of Gold, an online destination for teen girls passionate about entrepreneurship, social activism, and volunteerism. She recently moved to Amsterdam with her family. Find out more at DebbieReber.com.

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Doable

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THE DOABLE WAY

Alison is a junior in high school. She has a regular volunteer gig, a slew of babysitting clients, a full load of college prep classes, a spot on the varsity field hockey team, and an active social life. Oh yeah, she’s also on the school’s environmental Green Team, has weekly chores at home, dreams of starting her own nonprofit this year to help rescue shelter dogs, and has her sights set on getting into a small, liberal arts college in New England.

Alison is the epitome of a classic overachiever—someone who outperforms expectations. And even if that’s not how you would describe yourself, my hunch is that you have a lot in common with her. Like Alison, you have big dreams, things you need to take care of every day, longer-term goals you’re reaching for, and a busy, busy life. (Am I right?)

Busy Much?

Having a To Do list a mile long—whether it’s full of huge aspirations or mundane little tasks—just seems to be how teens roll these days. Perhaps more than any other generation before you, you’ve got full lives, full schedules, and a ton of things to do. So the question is, how good are you at getting stuff done?

Perhaps some To Dos are a piece of cake for you, while just the thought of doing others makes you break out in hives. Perhaps getting just about anything completed is challenging for you, so much so that you’ve started doubting your own ability to tackle and accomplish anything of importance. Maybe you’ve come up with your own way of tracking what’s on your plate, be it jotting down your tasks on scraps of paper or putting them in a memo app on your phone. Wherever you fall on the continuum, there’s no doubt that successfully tackling To Dos involves a lot more than just writing down what needs to be done and then doing it. If it were that easy, we’d all be super productive, procrastination wouldn’t exist, our stress levels would be close to zero, and frankly, this book would never have been published.

One of the things people ask me all the time is how I manage to get so much done. Because, like you, I have a lot on my plate. I mean, I have a nine-year-old son who requires a lot of energy and patience to parent, I volunteer regularly, I exercise (nearly) every day, I take care of the house (clean, cook, laundry, and so on), and as of the writing of this book, I had just relocated to Amsterdam in the Netherlands with my family. Plus, I coach writers and creative entrepreneurs, consult on a number of writing projects including a website for teens and a television show for preschoolers, and write books for a living.



So yes, getting it all done is something I’ve become super good at, whether I’m shipping a completed manuscript or clearing out a closet. Some people are experts at starting businesses, developing computer games, or performing life-saving surgeries. Me? I cross things off my To Do list like nobody’s business.

Teen Dreams

When I first began researching this book, I talked to many teen girls just like you and asked them what they wished they could do but had trouble doing. As you can imagine, I got all kinds of answers. Here are just a few:

■ Get good grades

■ Make an impact and be known for my passions

■ Go to school to learn sign language and be an interpreter for a child

■ Generate more school spirit on campus

■ Make a documentary

■ Become an animator

■ Get a job at a law firm during high school

■ Find the funds to do nonprofit work without worrying about where I’m going to get money to take care of myself

■ Turn things in when they’re due instead of being late all the time

■ Learn how to surf

■ Tell the guy I like that I like him

■ Find time for me

Next, I asked these girls what big dreams they would pursue if they knew with 100 percent certainty that they would be successful. These were some of my favorite answers:

■ Go to Harvard

■ Be an actress

■ Make my own talk show

■ Be a professional violinist

■ Teach photography or writing

■ Make my own fashion line

■ Be the best softball player I could be

■ Apply to Columbia University

■ Build wells in Africa

■ Get my wildlife rehabilitation license

Lastly, I asked these teens what it was that regularly got in their way and thwarted their attempts to do what they set out to do. Here’s where I discovered what was preventing these awesome girls from kicking serious booty in their lives:



■ I lose momentum if I have any setbacks.

■ I have a really hard time starting and finishing things, and since I expect I won’t be able to do it, I don’t even bother trying.

■ I don’t know whether I’ll be successful or not.

■ A lot of times, goals just end up being so big or intense that I literally don’t believe I have what it takes.

■ I get distracted and lose interest.

■ I’m uncomfortable taking risks.

■ I don’t have enough time to do it on top of everything else I have going on.

■ I don’t actually have a strategy for goal setting and goal pursuing.

■ I’m so overtired I don’t have any energy left to accomplish my goals.

■ I have low self-esteem.

■ I don’t have enough information to begin.

Any of these answers ring a bell? Good. Because this book you’re holding in your hot little hands contains my best secrets and tips for addressing all these problems and more. My goal? To help you be as productive as you want to be. To turn any goal or pursuit into a doable venture.

Don’t worry . . . I’m not going to tell you that you have to stick to some intimidating, intricate plan for my approach to work. And Doable isn’t about figuring out everything you’re doing wrong and fixing that. (That doesn’t sound like a very good read!) In fact, I believe you already have absolutely everything you need to be successful at getting things done. It’s true. You have what it takes—your unique strengths, your gifts, your talents . . . your essence. Doable is about discovering, unlocking, and ultimately harnessing all of these by plugging them into a framework that can be applied to any (seriously . . . any) To Do. By exploring and consequently understanding your own beliefs, thoughts, experiences, and style, you get to know your biggest asset . . . you! That’s the benefit of self-knowledge, and it’s the key to success on any level—just ask the queen of self-discovery, Oprah, who has built a global media empire rooted in helping people learn how to be their best selves. When you know how you best operate in any circumstance, you can figure out what you need in order to get anything done.

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