Bringing out the best in others is good business. When we bring both respect and interpersonal savvy to our work relationships, we do more than make people feel good. We enhance personal and organizational performance. And as the workplace grows more complex and competitive, managing our work relationships becomes even more essential and difficult. Now more than ever we need to work people smart. Working PeopleSmart describes the six core strategies used by people-smart individuals and shows how to apply them in the toughest workplace situations. Individuals who are people smart know how to open others up rather than make them defensive or resistant. They have a knack for diffusing tension rather than creating it. They set a good example through their own behavior on the job and can inspire and influence others with less developed skills. Working PeopleSmart can serve as your virtual coach to guide you through difficult work relationships skillfully. How do you deal with a critical colleague? Make your boss listen to you? React to an offensive joke? Get the resources you need? The authors look at over 50 real-life situations and offer people-smart prescriptions for handling them effectively. They provide coaching tips for each scenario and describe exactly what a people-smart response sounds like. As two psychologists with both organizational and clinical expertise, coauthors Mel Silberman and Freda Hansburg are highly qualified to deliver the message that we can emerge from even the toughest interpersonal moments on the job with dignity and grace. Where other books rely on typologies that categorize people according to their interpersonal styles and then offer advice on how to deal with each type, the strategies described in Working PeopleSmart are straightforward and universal. They can be used immediately to deal with any type of person or any situation, no matter how difficult or sensitive.
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Mel Silberman, Ph.D., is professor and coordinator of the Adult and Organizational Development Program at Temple University where he received the “Great Teacher” Award. He is also president of Active Training, a provider of cutting-edge business and personal development seminars based in Princeton, NJ.
A licensed psychologist, he specializes in training and devel- opment, marital and family health, performance improvement, and team building. Dr. Silberman has written a dozen best-selling books for parents, business people, educators, and trainers, including Active Training, Active Learning, How to Discipline Without Feeling Guilty, Confident Parenting, 101 Ways to Make Meetings Active, and 101 Ways to Make Training Active. He is also editor of The Team and Organization Development Sourcebook, The Training and Performance Sourcebook, and The Consultant’s Toolkit. Dr. Silberman is a widely sought-after speaker and seminar leader for educational, corporate, governmental, and human serv- ice organizations.
Freda Hansburg, Ph.D., is a psychologist and facilitator of change both for individuals and for organizations. She currently maintains a clinical practice with individuals and couples and directs the Technical Assistance Center, a consultation and training program at the University of Medicine and Dentistry of New Jersey. A popular trainer and conference presenter, Dr. Hansburg has provided consultation to numerous behavioral health and human service organizations, taught in university settings, and published professional and popular articles.
Introduction
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Bringing out the best in others is good business.
When we bring both respect and interpersonal savvy to our work relationships, we do more than make people feel good. We enhance personal and organizational performance. Customers are more likely to return to companies that treat them well. Staff show more loyalty to supportive employers. Cohesive teams are more productive. Individuals with strong people skills are more likely to succeed—and far less likely to be fired.
As the workplace grows more complex and competitive, managing our work relationships becomes even more essential and difficult. Today’s challenges in organizational life include:
Doing more with less—enhancing productivity and collaboration among teams with depleted numbers and morale
Bringing people together—bridging the gaps posed by diversity and virtual workplaces to promote understanding and effective communication
Building leadership—developing managers who bring out the best in their people, rather than put out fires among them
All of these situations pose daily interpersonal dilemmas as we deal with customers, colleagues, supervisors, and people who may report to us. Unfortunately, for many of us the workplace is not an interpersonal bed of roses. Tensions among co-workers are increasing. In one recent survey nearly 70% of people at work reported themselves the victims of rudeness and put-downs from fellow workers—and they retaliated by bad-mouthing the company, missing deadlines, and treating customers disrespectfully.* Does this sound like something you’ve experienced?
We believe that the worst way to respond to these mounting interpersonal tensions is by retaliating, despairing, or becoming cynical. These reactions only perpetuate the negativity. The only way out of the morass is to work people-smart. What’s more, we believe that anyone can. Our goal in this book is to demonstrate how you can face the most daunting interpersonal scenarios and turn them into opportunities for success, using six key strategies.2
What Is “Working People-Smart”?
Individuals who work people-smart focus on bringing out the best in others on the job. They know how to open people up rather than make them defensive or resistant. They have a knack for defusing tension rather than creating it. They set a good example through their own behavior and can inspire and influence those with weaker skills.
What does it take to work people-smart?
As we described in our previous book, PeopleSmart: Developing Your Interpersonal Intelligence, being savvy with people is a multifaceted competence that includes eight core skills:
Understanding people
Expressing yourself clearly
Asserting your needs
Seeking and giving feedback
Influencing others
Resolving conflict
Being a team player
Shifting gears when relationships are stuck
Mastering all eight of these skills is a lifetime effort. Few of us are fortunate enough to have been born with interpersonal genius. Most of us need to work at it. But the good news is that all of us can improve our interpersonal intelligence by applying the suggestions provided in People Smart. The book serves as a personal training guide to be used in any life situation in which bringing out the best in others is imperative.
Since the publication of People Smart, we’ve learned more about the essential ingredients of being people-smart—especially as it applies to the workplace. Our consulting assignments have brought us to a wide variety of work environments. We’ve observed individuals at all levels and in different environments, such as large corporations, nonprofit organizations, government agencies, small businesses, and educational institutions. We have paid particular attention to the four key arenas in which strong people skills are critical:3
Relating to your boss
Supervising and coaching others
Collaborating with colleagues and teammates
Serving or selling to customers
As a result of this opportunity, we have identified six “strategies” that separate the person who works people-smart from those who do not. We call them “strategies” because they go beyond “skills.” They are the basic approaches people take with others that allow them to succeed in key relationships… and garner success.
In Working PeopleSmart, we will explore each of these strategies for success. We’ll look at how and why people-smart individuals employ them, especially in tough situations. Here are the six strategies of working people-smart.
Six Strategies for Success
When interacting with a myriad of people, we inevitably experience some of them as challenging or difficult to understand. Often, this upsetting experience leads to frustration and sometimes anger. Those who work people-smart make it a practice to understand the challenging behaviors of others instead of just getting upset.
When we communicate information to others, our messages may be unclear because we fail to think about the needs of the listener. Those who work people-smart have figured out that the listener is their “communication partner.” They make it a practice to consider the listener’s frame of reference and foster two-way communication exchanges that increase understanding.
All of us experience moments at work when we should express our own views, needs, and expectations to others. Some of us remain silent and resentment builds. Others of us speak up for ourselves without hesitation but do so in ways that make others defensive. Those who work people-smart understand that their own ideas and concerns are important, and they make it their business to express them in ways that are clear but respectful of others.
Other people have perspectives about our performance that are useful to our growth and development. However, most of us are reluctant to seek feedback from those with whom we work. Those who work people-smart understand that “feedback is the breakfast of champions.” They seek the feedback of others rather than wait for it, and they develop strategies that encourage constructive feedback.
People at work don’t always agree with each other or follow each other’s recommendations. All too often, when faced with disagreement or conflict, people become either argumentative or avoiding. Those who work people-smart are influential because they consistently “surface” resistance by making efforts to understand the concerns and objections of others and use that information to build agreement and resolution. 5
Teamwork is essential in any organization. Often, we act in ways that don’t contribute to teamwork—without even realizing it. Although our intentions may not be selfish, our actions wind up serving only ourselves. Those who work people-smart gain from behaviors that foster collaborative rather than individual effort.
Can I Work People-Smart?
By now you may be asking yourself, “ Can I do all that?” Our answer is a resounding yes. As psychologists, we have seen time and again that people can and do change—given two conditions:
You must decide to change. You are the one who has to take the initiative to turn things around. Makeovers may happen on “reality” TV, but in real life we can’t change other people. The best we can do is change ourselves. Fortunately, by doing this, we often elicit something new from others.
You must work at change. Our six strategies are long-term endeavors, not quick fixes. This is not to say that a single peoplesmart response won’t transform a bad situation. It often does. But you will have to be patient and persistent at integrating the strategies into your daily life, and not abandon your efforts when you encounter setbacks.
If you need some help applying these strategies, we are here to serve as your virtual coach and guide you through difficult work relationships skillfully and gracefully. Everyone encounters interpersonal situations that test the capacity to be people-smart. After describing each of the six strategies of working people-smart, we will look at such dilemmas—the challenging, realistic scenarios that test your people skills—and offer our people-smart prescriptions for handling them effectively. We’ll provide coaching tips for each scenario and let you hear exactly what a people-smart response sounds like.
So here is the coaching contract we propose.
We will share the know-how you require to sharpen your people edge. Your job will be to take these strategies to work with you. Are you ready to begin? 9
*Lisa Penney, reported in APA MONITOR, vol. 34, No. 6, June 2003, p.11.
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