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Charlie Glickman is a sexuality educator, writer, blogger, and teacher. He has presented workshops on topics such as sex positivity, sex and shame, gender and masculinity, communities of erotic affiliation, and a wide range of sexual and relationship practices, including prostate play, cock and ball play, polyamory, BDSM, sex toys, and safer sex. Charlie has also taught university courses for therapists and seminary students to help them provide the best sexual counseling for their clients, and he has presented at many conferences and community events. He is certified by the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists (AASect.org) and is the Education Program Manager at Good Vibrations (GoodVibes.com). You can find out more about him and read his blog at CharlieGlickman.com.

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The Ultimate Guide to Prostate Pleasure

Erotic Exploration for Men and Their PartnersBy Charlie Glickman

Cleis Press

Copyright © 2013 Charlie Glickman
All right reserved.
ISBN: 9781573449045
Foreword
Even though we live in a time when anal sex movies are available at just a mouse click, anal pleasure—especially for men—remains a topic about which most people have never received good information. Sex education as a whole, in fact, doesn’t serve to promote or explore pleasure; people have to figure that part out on their own, and many don’t have time, ready access to information, or even the understanding that sex could feel better to them than it does right now. Still others cannot, for personal reasons, prioritize pleasure—after all, we are still getting mainstream messages that sex is primarily for reproduction, though that is hardly the only sexual message we hear. It has become a very lively discussion, if you know where to look for alternative perspectives.
Still, male anal pleasure and prostate play lie far outside the charmed circle of what many people understand sex to be, and anyone seeking to explore it needs to find a source of knowledge. This information mostly used to be in the hands of men who had sex with men: open discussion of anal sex and prostate play was far easier to find in the gay community, despite the irony that (as one study noted) more married heterosexual women, percentage-wise, engaged in anal intercourse than gay men. Jack Morin, in his book Anal Pleasure and Health, brought this information to anyone who needed it—but still, when my partner Dr. Robert Morgan Lawrence and I began traveling and teaching anal play workshops at the dawn of the 1990s, most people did not even know there was an informational infrastructure to be had. It has been a huge privilege for Robert and me to talk and teach about anal pleasure, for no knowledge is as welcome as knowledge that once seemed unobtainable.
With Robert, who had been teaching anal eroticism skills since the 1970s, I appeared in Bend Over Boyfriend—essentially a video distillation of his knowledge—which helped innumerable curious couples explore back-door delights. This became one of the best selling movies Good Vibrations ever carried. If it was not clear before that there existed plenty of pent-up desire for male anal play (and information about anal pleasure in general), this response, and feedback from many, many men and their partners, has definitely shown otherwise.
The fact is, all kinds of men love prostate stimulation and pleasure; even when they do not share this predilection with their partners, they may engage in solo anal play. Other men have decided to explore it in the hope that prostate massage will help keep them healthy. And increasingly, people with prostates are sharing erotic explorations with their partners. This book supports all of them—as well as the curious who haven’t yet put their ass on the line for erotic enjoyment—with permission, knowledge, safety information, and suggested play styles. It’s a great addition to a largely underground history that is finally coming into the light. Everyone deserves the sex information that will make their desires consensually possible, safe, and full of pleasure.

Carol Queen PhD
San Francisco


Introduction
The prostate has been getting a lot of attention lately. According to Christine Fawley of PleasureMechanics.com, “Prostate massage is the hottest trend in male sexuality, as straight men all around the world are waking up to the potential pleasures of anal play and prostate stimulation.” Coyote Days, toy buyer for Good Vibrations, says, “In the years that I’ve been buyer, there’s definitely been more emphasis, focus, and attention directed toward prostate stimulation.” What’s all the buzz about?
Curiosity about the health benefits of prostate massage has inspired lots of men to try it out and to discover some pleasant side effects—intense pleasure and orgasm. Many others have been intrigued to hear that it is possible to have an orgasm through prostate massage that feels completely different from what they are used to from penile stimulation, and that this can happen without touching their cocks at all. Not to mention multiple orgasms and full-body orgasms that some men experience through prostate play!
In recent years, people have been calling the prostate the “male G-spot,” a term that is suggestive of how powerful this hidden pleasure zone can be. And while the prostate has been common knowledge for a long time among gay men and other sexual subcultures, the increased mainstream popularity of pegging (strap-on sex for male–female couples, with the male as the receiver) has led many hetero couples to discover the intense sensations that this area can offer.
As the reputation of the prostate has grown, so has the curiosity of men and their partners. More and more ears are perking to the whispers and shouts about the prostate gland as a source of intense erotic sensation. In our work as sexuality educators, we’ve fielded more questions from men and their partners about prostate stimulation than we can keep track of.
With the increasing buzz about the prostate, more sex guides ranging from Tantra books to sex toy guides mention the prostate as an erogenous zone. However, most only mention it in passing, and don’t elaborate much further than to say “Insert fingers and curl them toward the front of the body.” Given the significant popular demand for information and the very limited number of comprehensive guides to prostate stimulation, we decided to write a detailed guide to finding and enjoying the prostate by yourself or with a partner.
Since you’re reading this, odds are that you’re curious about prostate play. Maybe you’ve been thinking of trying it out. Maybe you’ve given it a shot and want some new tips. Or perhaps your partner is interested and you’re willing to learn more. However you got here, we’re glad you did. Unlike some other sexual practices, trying prostate play presents some hurdles. Concerns about anal play, safety, cleanliness, sexual orientation, masculinity, and gender roles can hold men and their partners back. Or simply never having heard much about the prostate as a pleasure zone can keep lots of people from exploring it. We’re always excited to help people discover new ways to experience pleasure, so we give you all the information you need to know to relax and enjoy yourself.
All Genders and Orientations Are Doing This
All kinds of people get into prostate play. We have personally spoken with men of all different orientations—straight, gay, bi, queer, pansexual, etc.—who get into prostate play by themselves, with a partner, or both. It is a very diverse group of people who enjoy prostate play!
Despite the rather tenacious idea that anal penetration isn’t something heterosexual men do, we’ve talked with enough hetero men (and female partners) to know that’s simply not true. But because male-receptive anal penetration is still very taboo outside gay male circles and sex-positive subcultures, the enjoyment of prostate play (and male-receptive anal play generally) by hetero men is not discussed as openly, and there is less awareness of these practices in the larger culture.
Of course, awareness of this kind of play among straight men is growing now that prostate play is getting so much attention, but many straight men and their partners...