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Dr. Catherine Avery received her Ph.D. in Clinical Psychology from the Illinois Institute of Technology. Over the past twenty years she has specialized in the assessment of AD/HD, learning disabilities, and mood disorders in children and adults. She currently resides in Sioux Falls, South Dakota, with her husband and four children.

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Life at Full Throttle

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Contents

Preface......................................................................................ixChapter 1 How I Forgot Santa in the Bathroom................................................1Chapter 2 The Elusive Concept of Time.......................................................9Chapter 3 Organization and the Best Laid Plans..............................................16Chapter 4 The Art of Conversation...........................................................23Chapter 5 The Gift and the Curse of Hyperfocus..............................................30Chapter 6 Don't Forget to Push the Power Button.............................................35Chapter 7 Why the Tooth Fairy Is Always Late................................................38Chapter 8 Thar She Blows....................................................................43Chapter 9 Learning to Trust the Voice of Caution............................................49Chapter 10 Parenting an AD/HD Child..........................................................51Chapter 11 Waiting...........................................................................61Chapter 12 Smuggles..........................................................................62Chapter 13 Taming the Wild Beast.............................................................64Chapter 14 And Now a Word from the Inattentive Subtype.......................................69Chapter 15 When AD/HD Rears Its Ugly Head....................................................77Chapter 16 And What Did You Do Today, Dear?..................................................90Chapter 17 Once You Accept Your Limitations, the Solutions are Limitless.....................93Chapter 18 And In the End....................................................................99About the Author.............................................................................101Helpful Resources............................................................................103Bibliography.................................................................................105Notes........................................................................................111

Chapter One

Every AD/HD adult has his or her own story to tell: some parts are painful; some elicit deep regret or unresolved shame. But there are also "AD/HD moments" that are so common to adults with Attention Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder that, when viewed with the correct mixture of irreverence and humor, provoke gales of laughter, as well as a sense that those of us with AD/HD may actually have a little more fun in this adventure called life-that is, if we allow ourselves to. I have always told my children that when I am old and senile-rocking back and forth on the porch with a toothless grin-I will be in the process of reliving some of the funnier moments of my life. And believe me, I've amassed enough to humor me for years of senility.

In this book I will talk about the AD/HD experience from a unique set of perspectives: as a clinical psychologist who has evaluated more than two thousand AD/HD children and adults over the past fifteen years; as a mother who has parented two children with attentional deficits; and as a woman who has lived with the symptoms of this disorder for as long as she can remember. I have no intention of making excuses for adults with AD/HD, and I believe that identifying and taking ownership of problem behaviors is critical to success. However, I will also not condemn those of us who, despite these efforts, repeatedly fall short of our plans and expectations. There is a middle ground that is composed of compassion, experience, education, and humor that I encourage clients with AD/HD to find, and I hope to maintain this perspective throughout this book.

Because humor is so important in the life of an AD/HD adult, I will start with my finest "AD/HD moment": when I forgot Santa in the bathroom. If the particularly observant reader notices that my AD/ HD moment extended for well over a month, let me just say that time is relative in the AD/HD world.

The following story is the truth, the whole truth, and nothing but the truth-at least I think it is. The AD/HD imagination is so fertile and the tendency for AD/HDers to create stimulation is so second nature that it is possible that I've added a bit here and there as I've told this story over the years. Dr. Edward Hallowell, speaking at the first national AD/HD conference for adults, noted that people with AD/HD tend to exaggerate when telling a story and asserted that they shouldn't feel guilty for their penchant to embellish for the sake of entertainment (or stimulation). I have taken this gem of wisdom as blanket permission to let go of years of guilt over the fact that I exaggerate from time to time-particularly if I'm restless ... or in a good mood ... or in a bad mood ... or if I have a particularly engaged audience ... or if I'm trying to engage an audience ... Hmmm, let's just get back to Santa, okay?

It was November, the beginning of a crazily busy season for those of us who do not plan well, and as PTA president of a local elementary school, I was in charge of organizing a Christmas party to be held immediately following an all-school Christmas concert. Now, there are some people who excel at planning large events like this-first organizing a committee, identifying tasks, and delegating responsibility, and then following through to make certain that the various tasks have been completed. These people that I am describing do not have AD/ HD. Most people with AD/HD are wonderful at the initial planning stages where imagination and creativity are a plus. But translating ideas into action requires ongoing coordination with others who seem to function best between the hours of 8:00 am and 8:00 pm. Midnight powwows have not yet caught on in PTA circles, although that's when many people with AD/HD do their best work.

Large projects also typically involve meetings, a concept that sends shivers up the spines of my more hyperactive brethren. In the AD/HD world, the word meeting is translated as follows: "An indefinite period of forced captivity, during which time one must try to remain focused while simultaneously stifling the overwhelming desire to interrupt, doodle, or pass humorous notes." The mere prospect of group meetings is often enough to convince AD/HDers that it would be less painful to tackle an entire project by themselves. Initially the idea of "going solo" is met with great enthusiasm and splendid imagery of ultimate success, and memories of disastrous past projects are overshadowed by the excitement of a new venture. So, in true AD/HD form, I decided that there was clearly enough time to plan and execute the party by myself.

To my credit, I had the entire party planned a month ahead of time-in my mind. I would solicit donations from local businesses and make up darling little Christmas goodie bags, one for each elementary school student. The bags would be decorated during art class. The art teacher, of course, would be smitten with this idea, and the final products would be filled with the donated holiday treats and set out on a large table by the entrance to the cafeteria. I had run over this scenario countless times in my mind, imagining...