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"if You Lean In, Will Men Just Look Down Your Blouse?": Questions and Thoughts for Loud, Smart Women in Turbulent Times - Hardcover

Barreca, Gina

 
9781250060747: "if You Lean In, Will Men Just Look Down Your Blouse?": Questions and Thoughts for Loud, Smart Women in Turbulent Times
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ISBN 10: 1250060745 ISBN 13: 9781250060747
Verlag: ST MARTINS PR, 2016

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Gina Barreca is fed up with women who lean in, but don't open their mouths. In her latest collection of essays, she turns her attention to subjects like bondage, which she notes now seems to come in fifty shades of grey and has been renamed Spanx. She muses on those lessons learned in Kindergarten that every woman must unlearn, like not having to hold the hand of the person you're waking next to (especially if he's a bad boyfriend) or needing to have milk, cookies and a nap every day at 3:00 PM (which tends to sap one's energy not to mention what it does to one's waistline). She sounds off about all those things a woman hates to hear from a man, like "Calm down" or "Next time, try buying shoes that fit".

"'If You Lean In, Will Men Just Look Down Your Blouse?'" is about getting loud, getting love, getting ahead and getting the first draw (or the last shot). Here are tips, lessons and bold confessions about bad boyfriends at any age, about friends we love and ones we can't stand anymore, about waist size and wasted time, about panic, placebos, placentas and certain kinds of not-so adorable paternalism attached to certain kinds of politicians.

The world is kept lively by loud women talking and "'If You Lean In, Will Men Just Look Down Your Blouse?'" cheers and challenges those voices to come together and speak up. You think she's kidding? Oh, boy, do you have another thing coming.

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Über die Autorin bzw. den Autor

GINA BARRECA, Professor at UConn, wrote Babes in Boyland, They Used to Call Me Snow White but I Drifted and co-authored I’m With Stupid: One Man, One Woman, and 10,000 Years of Misunderstandings Between The Sexes Cleared Right Up with Pulitzer Prize winner Gene Weingarten. She grew up in Brooklyn, NY but now lives in Storrs, CT. Go figure.

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"If You Lean in, Will Men Just Look Down Your Blouse?"

Questions and Thoughts for Loud, Smart Women in Turbulent Times

By Gina Barreca

St. Martin's Press

Copyright © 2016 Gina Barreca
All rights reserved.
ISBN: 978-1-250-06074-7

Contents

Title Page, 
Copyright Notice, 
Dedication, 
PART 1. I'M NOT NEEDY; I'M WANTY, 
1. Does Beauty Really Equal Bondage? or "How I Learned to Stop Worrying and Loathe the Spanx", 
2. Unlearning the Kindergarten Lessons of Life, 
3. The Cheap-Motel Backside of Facebook, 
4. Women Carry Everything We Need to Start Life in a New State, 
5. The $150,000 Park Avenue Purse, 
6. Women's Bodies — from an Amusement Park to a Terrarium, 
7. Let the Good Times In, 
8. Bring Your Sense of Humor ... and Nineteen More Rules to Live By, 
9. Achievement Dysmorphia, 
10. Occupy Vogue, 
11. Loud Women Talking, 
12. Growing Old Gaudily, 
13. Turn It Up; I'm Dancing, 
14. When Faith's Needed, I Don't Have a Prayer, 
PART 2. SEX IS NOT THE ANSWER. "SEX?" IS THE QUESTION, 
15. The Female Orgasm, In Her Own Words, Explains How She Is Not Elusive, 
16. Rules on Love, Laughter, and Using Your Words, 
17. Define That Feeling, 
18. Sixteen Things Women Hate to Hear (Even When We Like or Love You), 
19. Sixteen Things Men Hate to Hear (Even When They Like or Love Us), 
20. The Truths About Relationships Nobody Wants to Admit, 
21. Why Are Men Masters of the Breakfast Domain?, 
22. "Happily Married" Is Not an Oxymoron, 
23. Save the Last Class for Me, 
24. Relationships, Roundabouts, and Banana Boats, 
PART 3. AMATEUR TRAUMATICS, 
25. Never Talk Politics with Your Family, 
26. Why Work Matters, 
27. To a Young Friend Who Is Not Happy at Her Job, 
28. Why I Hate Nature and Love Electricity, 
29. Six Things You Need to Know About Changing Your Life, 
30. You're Not Perfect, Either, Lady!, 
31. Pack Only the Liberty Bag: Advice I'd Give to My Younger Self, 
32. Shrinkage, 
33. After Loss, 
34. Spring Cleaning for the Soul, 
35. Deal with Your "Emotional Allergies", 
36. Put the Brakes on Being Busy, 
37. Snappy Answers to Stupid Questions, 
PART 4. HE DIDN'T LEAD ME INTO TEMPTATION: WE TOOK A SHORTCUT, 
38. Bad Boyfriends at Any Age, 
39. Ten Reasons to Thank the One Who Walked Out, 
40. When It's Over, 
41. Timeline of a Breakup Recovery, 
42. Hearts and Parachutes, 
43. How to Get What You Want, 
PART 5. IF YOU RUN WITH A BAD CROWD, CAN YOU CALL IT EXERCISE?, 
44. Why Friends Can (Sometimes) Be Better than Family, 
45. And If You Envy Your Friend?, 
46. Sitting Down with Your Demons, 
47. Gifts of Omission, 
48. When a Friend Faces Divorce, 
49. Girlfriends: As Essential as Cupcakes and Revenge, 
PART 6. IF YOU MET MY FAMILY, YOU'D UNDERSTAND, 
50. Why I Tell Stories, 
51. Marrying Italian, 
52. "Listen to This One....", 
53. My Mother's Dreams, 
54. Sex Talk in the Park, 
55. When a Mother Doesn't Like Being a Mom, 
56. Questions I Wish I'd Asked, 
57. What Makes an Apology Real?, 
58. "You Think I Have All Day?", 
59. The Hummingbird Effect, 
PART 7. SEEING SOMETHING, SAYING SOMETHING, 
60. If You Lean In, Will Men Just Look Down Your Blouse?, 
61. Good Girls Say No — and Women Should, Too, 
62. Why We Know That When Guys Make Slurping Sounds at Us on the Street, It Isn't a Compliment, 
63. Never Mind Mindfulness, 
64. A Good Eater's Guide to Actual Food, 
65. Please Don't Eat the Placentas!, 
66. Words Rich People Use That Poor People Don't, 
67. A Proactive, Impactful Look at Words I Despise, 
68. Moments of the Irrevocable, 
69. Five Reasons to Hate Twilight, 
70. Fifty Shades of Stupefaction, 
71. Good Dirty Books Versus Bad Dirty Books, 
72. Essential Must-Not-Reads, 
73. My Bikini Bridge Is the Verrazano, 
EPILOGUE: What Everyone Must Stop Doing Right Now, 
Acknowledgments, 
Also by Gina Barreca, 
About the Author, 
Copyright,


CHAPTER 1

Does Beauty Really Equal Bondage? or "How I Learned to Stop Worrying and Loathe the Spanx"


Could you be talked into purchasing a foundation undergarment so restrictive, so unyielding, and so draconian it makes a wetsuit look like a nightgown?

Here's why I ask: There's been a pop-up (rarely has the term been so grievously misused) ad appearing in the lower right-hand screen of my computer which at first seemed merely persistent but turned out to have been irresistible. It offered me a product that would, through cunning and science, give me a better figure. This week, I relented. Casting my integrity to the wind, I clicked on the link.

What I saw made me gasp, then wince, then toss my head and offer the hollow laughter of film sirens who discovered their boyfriends were no -good, gunslinging liars. The website was selling girdles. They didn't call them that, but that's what they were.

A girdle is a girdle is a girdle.

I grew up watching early women's rights activists burn their bras and girdles. Now times have changed and women are putting their undergarments into the flames for a different reason: They're doing it to forge the steel infrastructure more thoroughly by placing them in the refiner's fire.

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That's why they're called foundation garments — they're made of metal and concrete. They're supposed to support the whole structure, from the bottom-up and the inside-out.

These new products differ from the girdles worn by women of my mother's generation only insofar as there are now girdles for the legs, girdles for the arms, and girdles for an adult's entire body. Turns out you don't just have to flatten your stomach anymore. You have to flatten your whole self.

I started looking at various other links for women's foundation garments — there are more than 28 million entries, so I narrowed my search to the first 75,000 — and it seems as if the most popular brand at the moment is a product called Spanx.

Name aside, I don't believe this product has anything to do with the act of spanking because, as far as I can tell, the hand of the person attempting such an act would ricochet off the taut trampoline-like surface of the fabric and in all probability cause the spanker to put out an eye or cause severe damage to his (or her, but you know it would be his) wrist.

In some cases, of course, that would be appropriate.

But what might start out as playful could become deadly and we should all remember that, especially before wearing an item of clothing that resembles a lace-edged iron maiden.

The premise behind Spanx is this: if you put Jell-O into a Thermos, it won't remember it's Jell-O.

This realization did not prevent me from wondering whether I might not be wise to purchase one. I've always been fond of Thermoses, which are the cleverest of appliances. You put in a hot beverage, it keeps it hot; you put in a cold beverage, it keeps it cold. As the old joke goes, "How do(es) it know?" But so-called shapewear? It turns out it's not so intelligent. That's why smart broads were eager to shed it.

Today's advertising rhetoric says shapewear will "smooth" your silhouette, which sounds rather comforting and benign, but with a little research (reading another 48,000 articles) a person can start to believe in conspiracy theories...

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Verlag
ST MARTINS PR
Erscheinungsdatum
2016
Sprache
Englisch
ISBN 10 
1250060745
ISBN 13 
9781250060747
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Anzahl der Seiten
272
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