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Dr. Ross Campbell is a psychiatrist and the author of several books on parenting and child development, including the best-selling How to Really Love Your Child. He lives in Chattanooga, TN.

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HELP YOUR TWENTY-SOMETHING GET A LIFE ... AND GET IT NOW

Thomas Nelson

Contents

FOREWORD.................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................vii1. A GENERATIONAL PROFILE................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................1Financial Challenges The Recreation/Information Generation An Age of Fear Diversity and the Nonlinear Life Notes of Interest along Our Journey2. MATURE ADULTS ONLY....................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................16The Adulthood Enigma The Moral Dimension The Value of Integrity Emotional Maturity Signs of Emotional Maturity The Final Assessment3. BACK TO BASICS........................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................35Four Fundamentals Loving Your Adult Child Eye Contact Physical Contact Focused Attention A Few Words About Words Giving Advice Training and Discipline Requests Direct Instruction Sanctions Protection from Harmful Influences Anger Management Have You Got All That?4. WHEN JOHNNY COMES MARCHING HOME.......................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................67Delaying or Retreating? The "Other" Children Practical Agreements Launch Date A Fresh Opportunity5. CARING FOR YOU........................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................88What You Owe Yourself-and Your Children Care for Your Body Care for Your Emotions Care for Your Spirit Care from Your Community Are You Up to the Task?6. MIND, MOOD, AND MEDS..................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................106"Quarterlife Crisis" Anxiety Depression Bipolar Disorder ADHD Substance Abuse Materialism A Few Words About Medication and Health Coverage7. CASH, CREDIT, AND CHARACTER...........................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................125Money and Responsibility Money and Manipulation Pleasant but Firm What About Their Own Money? Goals and Growth Do Your Homework8. JOB ONE: ONE JOB......................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................143Alternatives to McJobs Thinking About the Future Thinking About the Meaning of Work Matching Work to Worker9. DATING AND RELATING...................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................161The State of the Unions It's Not About You How Do I Know? Helping Them with Marriage Lifestyle Issues Living Together10. SOUL PROVIDERS.......................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................185A Hungry Generation Unreached Twenty-Somethings A Faith to Follow Be Hopeful11. WAITING FOR THE FUTURE...............................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................204The Legacy of Character The Legacy of Love A Vision of PotentialFIVE WAYS TO GET THE MOST FROM THIS BOOK.................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................215STUDY GUIDE..............................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................217NOTES....................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................227ABOUT THE AUTHOR.........................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................231

Chapter One

Since you've picked up this book, presumably you have a son or daughter in the twenty-something age-group. And presumably what you want most is to help your adult child get moving in a positive direction in life.

Be encouraged-there are plenty of good strategies for parents to take. The very first strategy is to seek a clear understanding of the situation at hand. Most modern parents understand they are facing an entirely new world with new conditions, because they themselves were part of a generation that changed the world (called the baby boomers, the name generally assigned to the group born between 1945 and 1964). These parents aren't demanding that their children do things exactly as their parents or grandparents did; they simply want their children to do something. It sometimes seems to Mom and Dad as if the lives of their children are stuck in neutral. Why is this the case for so many young people of this age-group? And what can we do to help them?

To start with, we can learn as much as we can about the world of our adult children. What forces from within motivate them? What forces from without?

Many people call them...