How to Attract Anyone, Anytime, Anyplace: The Smart Guide to Flirting - Softcover

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Susan Rabin is a relationship therapist, communications coach, and president of Dynamic Communications, Inc. She is the author of 101 Ways to Flirt, Lucky in Love, and How to Attract Anyone, Anytime, Anyplace, all with with Barbara Lagowski.

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HOW TO ATTRACT ANYONE, ANYTIME, ANYPLACE

FLIRTING – HOW TO DO IT

What better way is there to start a relationship than to flirt? In this innovative book you’ll learn the fine art of relating to others and attracting them to you, and you’ll soon be making connections—instead of excuses. Expert flirt Susan Rabin will teach you:

 How to make eye contact and the “flirting triangle” work for you

 How to master the five “W’s” of (not-so) small talk

 The best way to start and end a good conversation

 How to make techniques like the “echo,” the “third ear,” and the “three R’s” work for you

 How to turn self-denial and self-destruction into self-esteem and self-support

 The best way to handle the sting of rejection and get back in the saddle

 How to end a relationship with Mr. or Ms. Not-Quite-Right and still respect yourself in the morning.

SUSAN G. RABIN, M.A., is a relationship therapist, communication and flirting coach, international speaker, and president of Dynamic Communications, Inc., a company dedicated to making relationships work and is director of The School of Flirting®. She appears frequently on radio and television, including The Oprah Winfrey Show, The Today Show, Good Morning America, The O’Reilly Report, as well as on the Learning Channel and CNN.

Susan was the former Family Living/Sex Education Coordinator for the New York City Board of Education and is also the author of 101 Ways to Flirt and Lucky in Love (both available in a Plume edition). She lives and works in New York City.

BARBARA LAGOWSKI is a former editor and the author of fourteen books.

Visit www.dynamiccommunications.com and
www.schoolofflirting.com

Also by Susan Rabin

with Barbara Lagowski:

Cyberflirt

101 Ways to Flirt

This book is dedicated to the salmon who swim upstream, and my loving family and friends who helped me with my struggle. I hope I can help others with theirs.

ACKNOWLEDGMENTS

To my mom and dad. I wish they could read this book, but I am sure they know of my happiness and success, and I want to thank them for giving me the intelligence, personality, ability to persevere, and education so that I could make this book happen.

To my three children, Stuart, Jeff, and Frannie, who kept me on my toes as a single parent, and gave me a reason to work hard and persist and above all a desire to learn to love well. They taught me lessons of life not found in the school books, ones that only experience and motherhood can provide. Sometimes raising children alone felt like an endless struggle, but one well worth it, and I am very proud of each of them. They turned out to be exceptional grown-ups.

To my sister, Jewel, whose name only begins to describe her precious qualities. She is loved and appreciated in ways words cannot express, and was always there for me. I thank God she will read this book and enjoy my successes with me.

To the best sister-in-law a person could have, Laura. Never too busy or tired to listen (and listen well) to my ramblings. I hope to fulfill my promise to her yet. Laura, the chauffeur is on the way, she’s just a little late.

To my brother, a real treat of a guy who taught me early what a good man and loving brother is, and gave me my first inkling of how different men are from women, and just how okay that is.

To Ben, my brother-in-law to whom I owe my sense of humor and love of sports. He is a very good man and made me feel special and cared for especially when the chips were down.

To my dear friends:

Lynn, so kind, supportive, and loyal from the first lecture she attended through all our ups and downs. Here come the good times, Lynn, enjoy them with me.

Rosemary, who laughed with me all the way through our writing conferences as we learned our craft, and encouraged and edited my work at all times of day and night. Thanks for being there, Rosemary.

Claire, my author friend whom I admired and tried to emulate, and who always insisted that I could write this book when I didn’t think it possible. She was there personally and professionally to keep me going. Thanks, Claire.

Dolores, a dear friend whose talent inspired me to keep on going because she told me I had talent, and I thought she must know, as she hung in there to advise me. Thanks, Dee.

Herb, who introduced me to my agent Sandra, because every time we talked he said, “You have great ideas, do something about them.”

To Sandra, an agent sent from heaven. She believed in my book, and made everyone else believe in it too, and used her natural flirting ability and charm to get this book to publication.

To Peter, my friend and editor, with whom instant rapport was easy. Thanks, Peter, for the belief, confidence, and skill you gave to me and this book to make this project as exciting a reality as it is.

To Barry, the man I most love to flirt with and have for many years. Thank you, Barry, for your astuteness as my attorney, and making my life a pleasure, personally and professionally. Besides, any man who can finish the Sunday Times crossword puzzle in half an hour and let me think I’m good at it too is a gentleman worth loving.

To the men in my life, thanks for enjoying me as a woman and letting me practice my flirting and relating skills which helped me to become who I am today and taught me to love and be loved in a healthy way.

To Dr. Albert Ellis, whose professional training helped me grow personally and professionally and enabled me to help others do the same.

To all my friends and relatives who are not mentioned personally, but know who you are. Thank you for touching my life and caring about me. I have learned and loved with you.

To the men and women who have attended my seminars and lectures—my friends and clients. You are who inspired me to write this book. I am so glad you were willing to come to the workshops and lectures to learn and to share your experiences. I gained much from you as well. I hope this book will further help you achieve what you desire, always.

To the children, teenagers, and teachers I have taught and guided in health and sex education for the New York City Board of Education. Thanks for the opportunity to make a difference in your lives. I hope this book will guide you further and increase your insights in the future.

To Miss Johnson, my eighth grade English teacher, who taught me an appreciation of the English language and the writers who used it so well. She may never know of her influence, but like all great teachers she inspired me. When she wrote in my autograph book at graduation, “A thing of beauty is a joy forever” (Keats), I just knew she meant me, and that was the foundation for my positive self-esteem.

And to a nameless woman who delivered a speech at a health education conference in 1959, “The Gift of Greatness,” in which she told her audience, “We as women truly had the gift of greatness, as we sacrificed by leaving our loved ones for the weekend to enhance our education.” I waited a long time and took a circuitous path, as many women of my generation did, but I found my way toward doing what I felt destined for and her words never left me.

Lastly, to the salmon that swim upstream to spawn. I know how hard that journey is, but I am happy to say “I made it!”

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