There Are No Overachievers: Seizing Your Windows of Opportunity to Do More Than You Thought Possible - Hardcover

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A former vice-president of a major transportation corporation and author of Beyond Success, Brian Biro was rated #1 from over 40 Speakers at 4 consecutive INC. Magazine international conferences.  With degrees from Stanford University and UCLA, Brian has appeared on Good Morning America, CNN, FOX and as a featured speaker at the Disney Institute in Orlando.  Brian was recently named one of the top 100 most inspirational graduates of the UCLA Graduate School of Business in honor of their 75th Anniversary.  He has also been honored as one of the top 70 Speakers in the world.

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Shake Your Future

One evening my wife and daughters and I were dining in a café in the Bitterroot Valley of Montana, where we lived at the time. The café was on the second floor of an old Main Street brick building and had huge windows that captured the stunning panorama of the Bitterroot and Sapphire mountain ranges enclosing our valley. Everyone in the café was eating or chatting quietly when something caught my four-year-old daughter Jenna’s attention and she walked over to the window. As she gazed out at the mountains a look of pure wonder came over her, and with great excitement and considerable volume she burst out: “Look, Mommy, Daddy, Kelsey . . . we’re in heaven!”

Well, the whole place went dead quiet. Everyone stared at us, and we turned bright red. Then after a moment the shock gave way to delight, and grins and laughter erupted all around us at the unbridled joy of Jenna’s revelation.

Six months later as I sat in the window seat on my flight to Seattle I looked down at the magnificent puffy cloud formations below me. For some reason the sight made me think of heaven again, which in turn reminded me of Jenna at that café. Grinning, I thought, My daughter is the cutest kid on the planet!

But then something hit me like a thunderbolt. Suddenly right there in that plane I saw for the first time that my little girl was brilliant. She was a visionary. Why? Because she was the only one who saw heaven. It was right there in front of us, but all I saw was my to‑do list, my schedule, and my trials and tribulations. At that moment I decided to put on Jenna’s lenses and look for the heaven in everything around me . . . especially in people!

Most of us have never been taught to look at our lives as shining windows of opportunity, or WOOs. In fact, we are powerfully conditioned to do precisely the opposite. In our first five years of life we hear one word more than any other. Though completely well-intentioned, that word is no. Our parents love us and want to keep us safe and protected. Instinctively they teach us to be on the lookout for danger and uncertainty, so we develop caution and wariness about the unknown. This is important and vital to our well-being as we experience the complex and fascinating world outside the womb. But over time, two other tremendously powerful words become imprinted in our subconscious as a result, and begin to color the way we view the world. Those words are or else: “You better watch out, or else something bad will happen.” Then there’s another set of words that can slam the brakes on any risk taking: “Be careful or you’ll get hurt.”

It is easy to assume that as we get older and more experienced we will stop focusing on obstacles, fears, and doubts. But for most of us this is not the case. When parents joke about their children not coming into the world with an instruction manual, they are on to something important. We are not taught to shift our focus toward windows of opportunity. The wariness we learned as children becomes entrenched in our subconscious as we focus more and more on what could go wrong, rather than envisioning what could go right.

How much of the news that we watch on television or read online is positive, energizing, and uplifting? Instead we are bombarded with impending disasters. We worry about our health, our finances, our children, our security, and most of all the unknown and unexpected new obstacles lying in wait around the next corner. Why do we do this? What do we get out of spiraling downward into worst-case scenarios?

But what if there was another way to view each day? What if we were taught a simple, gracious, and enlivening way to begin our day by appreciating it as the greatest gift we are given? What if we were taught to break the pattern of fearing uncertainty and obstacles? What if we replace all of that with the conviction that windows of opportunity are all around us if we look for and open them? What if we broke through the status quo and learned that happiness is a choice? What if we developed that choice into a fresh new habit? What if that new habit leads us to inner peace, a sense of purpose, loving relationships, and extraordinary energy? And what if by our example we taught our children, our business associates, and our friends to look for the WOO instead of the woe?

I promise that this is all not only possible but also simple, fulfilling, and fun. I’ve been living my life this way for the last thirty-five years, and I know beyond a doubt that WOOs are right there in front of me every day. I’ve laid the groundwork, muddled along through lots of trial and error, and emerged on the other side with a way that will make it easy for every one of us to enjoy every precious moment. The first step is to develop an eager spirit. I learned this lesson from one of the greatest teachers I have ever known.

I once asked John Wooden, “Coach, what’s the difference between a good team and a great one?” The great basketball coach’s answer took me by surprise. He said, “Brian, the difference between a good basketball team and a great one is the same difference between a good leader and a great one, a good parent and a great one, a good life and a great one. I believe the difference comes down to two little words. On good teams every-one is willing to support one another and the greater good. But great teams, teachers, parents, and leaders are eager to do whatever it takes. It’s the difference between being willing and being eager that has the greatest impact on your performance, your character, and your impact on others.”

Just as we all have hearts and minds, we have within us what I think of as an “eager meter.” Picture a speedometer with willing at the zero mark and eager all the way at the other side, at 200 miles per hour. The most important truth about our eager meter is that we each are 100 percent in charge of our own, whether or not we think we have one. No one else controls our hope and faith in ourselves. No one else can ever give up for us. No one else can take us from good to great. We do that all by ourselves.

Why do some people seem to get all the breaks, caught in a perennial upward spiral? Is it merely luck or chance? Could it be that they live at a higher level on their eager meter?

I can always spot someone who has developed an eager spirit because their automatic, lighthearted response to most every WOO that comes their way is “The answer is yes. What’s the question?”

Just as we can build a muscle, we can develop our sense of eagerness. The most powerful, simple, and fun way to accelerate our eager meter is to begin to say yes to more WOOs, especially those that show up disguised as invitations that stretch us beyond our comfort zones. As we elevate our ratio of yeses to nos, we will find that we are choosing faith in ourselves over fear of the unknown. A surefire way to hit the gas and shake our future is by seeing the future through a lens of possibility.

One beautiful autumn evening, my friend Tom was relaxing on his patio thinking about his life after a long but satisfying day’s work. He thought, Wow! I am so lucky! I am living a great life! He had a beautiful home overlooking the ocean in south Florida, and he had a great job. Best of all, he was in love with a woman with whom he intended to spend the rest of his life.

At the time, his focus outside of his own work was on his fiancée’s career. She was an up-and-coming singer, and Tom was her manager. For two years he’d sacrificed every spare moment to the project of landing a recording contract for her. Earlier that afternoon he’d received the call they’d been...