Jo Frost's Toddler Rules: Your 5-Step Guide to Shaping Proper Behavior - Softcover

Frost, Jo

 
9780345542380: Jo Frost's Toddler Rules: Your 5-Step Guide to Shaping Proper Behavior
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ISBN 10: 034554238X ISBN 13: 9780345542380
Verlag: Random House Publishing Group, 2014

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From the beloved TV disciplinarian and bestselling author of Supernanny comes an amazingly simple five-step program to help parents tame tantrums, prevent bad behavior, and create long-term peace and stability in the home.
 
SILVER MEDAL WINNER, NATIONAL PARENTING PUBLICATIONS AWARDS

Jo Frost has always had a natural gift for connecting with kids, and for helping parents navigate milestones with practical know-how and ease. With the success of her hit TV shows Supernanny, Extreme Parental Guidance, and Family S.O.S. with Jo Frost, she’s proven her ability to expertly rein in unacceptable conduct and bring peace and stability to millions of homes worldwide. Now, in this invaluable book, she shows you how to identify and eliminate toddler tantrums, and curb behaviors in other child rearing areas. Frost’s effective five-step program for disciplined parenting addresses such challenges as
 
• Sleep: winning those nightly battles—going to bed and staying there
• Food: what to cook, trying new things, and enjoying meal times
• Play: sharing toys, defusing squabbles, developing social skills
• Learning: listening, language, and development
• Manners: teaching respect, showing examples, and positive praise
 
The key to achieving success with these Toddler Rules is Frost’s proven S.O.S. method: Step Back, Observe, Step In. Complete with troubleshooting tips for living tantrum-free, this welcome, honest, straightforward guide has all you need to help your children grow, thrive, and make family time even more precious.

Praise for Jo Frost’s Toddler Rules
 
“The indomitable Frost shares both her wisdom and experience for parents of toddlers. The five rules . . . are presented in her charming and conversational tone and provide not only a foundation for sanity but sure scaffolding to greater learning and happier parenting. . . . Frost is a favorite with many, and her engaging manner carries into her written work.”—Library Journal (starred review)

“Common-sense and practical advice on raising young children by an expert in the field . . . A full chapter devoted to handling temper tantrums is an added bonus for parents in crisis mode.”—Kirkus Reviews

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With more than twenty-five years of experience as a nanny and parenting expert, Jo Frost became a global household name with her hit shows Supernanny, Extreme Parental Guidance, and Family S.O.S. with Jo Frost. Jo Frost is the author of seven insightful parenting guides, including the Supernanny books, which were New York Times bestsellers. A proponent of early education and an advocate for several charities, she regularly speaks to audiences around the world. She lives in Los Angeles.

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The Five Rules of Disciplined Parenting

I’m sure you remember the overwhelming feeling of love you experienced when your child was first placed in your arms, that animalistic feeling of wanting to protect. I bet you also remember the tremendous sense of responsibility to get it right as well, the realization that this tiny being is totally dependent on you and you want to give him everything he needs and be the best parent possible. Throughout the first twelve months or so of your baby’s life, you were focused on meeting his needs for sleep, food, and stimulation, as well as all the other developmental milestones that come in that first year. Once you figured out what his various cries meant and a schedule to meet those needs, life with your little one made you a bit more confident, didn’t it? You felt proud you got through the first year and adjusted well, with thousands of photos to prove it.

Then she starts walking and one day, as you’re trying to get her to do something—perhaps get her clothes on, or get her in her car seat—it happens. She digs in her heels and throws a wobbly: kicking like a Premier League soccer player, screaming at the top of her lungs, throwing herself down on the ground. Hello . . . and welcome to the toddler tantrum.

But it isn’t just tantrums you have to deal with now. Suddenly you have a Mini-Me who tells you what she does and doesn’t want. She’s a bundle of contradictions. She wants independence—and she wants you to do everything for her. One minute it’s “Feed me!”—the next she’s refusing to eat. She wants to pour her own milk, but it spills all over. She wants to get out of the stroller and walk, but she won’t stay by your side and you’re afraid she’ll dart out into the street. She’s learned the power of the word no and uses it as frequently as possible: no, she doesn’t want to go to bed; no, she doesn’t want to share her toy; no, she doesn’t want to sit at the table in the restaurant . . . No, no, no, no.

Now what you need to give your child is more challenging than ever before. You want to give her all she needs in order to grow into a happy, healthy, productive adult with good morals, healthy boundaries, and the ability to function well in the world. You see the long-term vision in your mind. And you still want to be the best parent possible so that one day when she’s grown, she’ll look back and say, “You did a good job, Mom. Thank you.” Parents know that when you have a child you get the title, but here’s where you start to earn it.

Take a moment now and think of a picture that represents your desire to give your child the best. Is it you and your little one snuggled warm and cozy in bed while you read a story? Is it pushing her on a swing and her belly laughing in the wind with delight? Is it the classic holiday card with you and your spouse surrounded by your smiling children? Whatever it is, take a moment to visualize it. Freeze the image. See it in color. Experience how happy and content that picture makes you feel.

That picture is possible. You can have it. But it takes knowing what fundamentals you need to put in place, the skills you must have to get there, and the discipline to do what’s needed day after day for years. Remember, you’re aiming to be a conscious parent to your toddler, the person who consistently provides for your child. To achieve this, you have to make sure your child has:

•The right amount of sleep

•Consistent mealtimes with proper portions and the right kinds of foods

•Opportunities for getting out and about, for physical activity, stimulation, and socialization

•Early learning activities to help with child development

•A clear sense of your family’s expectations for behavior, and appropriate corrections when necessary

Of course parenting is 24/7 throughout childhood. But what you give in the toddler years are paramount. That’s an incredible responsibility, one that should be held in much regard and respect. You have been given the gift of raising a human being in this life. Not to mention for those of you who already know me, my techniques are tried, tested, and proven. You’ve seen me do them hundreds of times.

So often I hear parents say, “I don’t have the time.” I read somewhere recently that over 40 percent of today’s parents say that they don’t have time to think about how to keep their children safe in their own homes. That’s so rudimentary that it is inconceivable to me! But if they can’t even think of their toddler’s physical safety, how can they possibly put these five cornerstones in place? Your interest in this book tells me that you are part of the other 60 percent—parents who realize the importance of putting in the needed time, and of trying hard to get things right from the start. Not the cliché of “I’ve tried, but it doesn’t work.”

Imagine you are holding two packs of playing cards. One has cards that say obesity, type 2 diabetes, poor attention and other learning issues, and social relationship problems. The other has cards that say health, learning up to one’s potential, fruitful relationships, and the ability to function well in the world. Which pack do you want to hand to your child? It’s not rocket science, right? I’ve seen what a lack of these basics does. I’ve seen children delayed in their speech, arrested in their development, and having trouble socializing with other children. I’ve seen children frustrated by wanting to learn but not being able to because they haven’t been taught to sit down and pay attention. I’ve seen children eat and eat and be given praise for being on their third helping, when it’s been shown this overfeeding is a setup for obesity and type 2 diabetes while still in childhood. I’ve seen two- and three-year-olds who act aggressively and have been given no guidance or boundaries turn into bullies and be kicked out of school at age six.

I know you don’t want those consequences for your child, and I also know that what I am asking you to do takes time and energy. That’s why I say you need to be a disciplined parent. It takes discipline to feed your child right, to make sure he gets to bed on time, to teach the early learning activities that will stimulate his brain, to teach him how to be out in public safely and to play nicely with others, to reinforce positive behavior and to curb naughty behavior. And it takes discipline to create and follow a routine to provide everything you need to in a day. With routine comes organization, good timekeeping, and the ability to do everything that needs to get done, not just for your child but for you too! In doing so, you can all have fun.

I remember a Colorado family I worked with. They were juggling running their household and running their own company out of their house. The mother had no set times for work and focusing on the kids. She felt guilty they weren’t getting enough of her attention, so she kept them up too late; as a result, they weren’t getting the amount of sleep they needed. Being overtired and missing her led to her youngest getting up in the middle of the night, and she’d feel so guilty that she’d let him stay up, creating more tiredness. I helped her divide her day so that she could do what was necessary with her young ones and still have time to work. That plus putting the Sleep Separation technique (page 72) in place turned the situation around.

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Verlag
Random House Publishing Group
Erscheinungsdatum
2014
Sprache
Englisch
ISBN 10 
034554238X
ISBN 13 
9780345542380
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Taschenbuch
Anzahl der Seiten
320
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