Über die Autorinnen und Autoren

Jim Hancock invested two decades as a church-based youth worker. Now he spends his days writing and creating digital movies and learning designs for youth workers, parents, and adolescents. He's the author of many youth ministry resources including How to Volunteer Like a Pro and The Justice Mission, and co-author of Good Sex 2.0 and The Youth Worker's Guide to Helping Teenagers in Crisis.

Dr. Kara E. Powell is an educator, professor, youth minister, author, and speaker. She is the Executive director of the Fuller Youth Institute and a faculty member at Fuller Theological Seminary (see www.fulleryouthinstitute.org). Kara also serves as an Advisor to Youth Specialties and currently volunteers in student ministries at Lake Avenue church in Pasadena, CA.  She is the author of many books including Sticky Faith: Everyday Ideas to Build Lasting Faith in Your Kids (with Chap Clark) and Deep Justice Journeys. Kara lives in Pasadena with her husband, Dave, and their children, Nathan, Krista, and Jessica.

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Sex saturates the world our students are growing up in. Everywhere they look (or listen) they can hear all kinds of messages about sexuality, and most of it probably isn't helping them develop a healthy understanding of how their own sexuality fits into God's plan for their lives.

In Good Sex 2.0: A Whole-Person Approach to Teenage Sexuality and God, you'll find tools to help you (and parents of teens) involve your students in understanding, enjoying, and taking responsibility for their sexuality--all without lecturing, intimidating, or moralizing.

The Good Sex 2.0 curriculum gives you everything you need to help your students process and understand:

• Sexual Identity • Desire • Responsibility • Sex Messaging • Intimacy • Boundaries • Do-Overs

This Leader's Guide gives you tools to walk students through the seven sessions of the Good Sex 2.0 curriculum, and is organized in such a way that without much preparation you can lead it yourself or hand it off to a volunteer to use in a large or small group setting.
Good Sex 2.0 also includes several appendices and other helpful resources you can consult for further teaching.

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Good Sex 2.0 Leader's Guide

Zondervan

Contents

Introduction ReadMe.......................................................1190-Minute Parent Meeting: Talking to Your Kids about Sex......................21Additional Ideas for Partnering with Parents..................................25Talking Points for Pastors and Other Bosses...................................29Session 1 Sex Messaging................................................51Session 2 Sexual Identity..............................................85Session 3 Intimacy.....................................................119Session 4 Desire.......................................................155Session 5 Boundaries...................................................183Session 6 Responsibility...............................................215Session 7 Do-Overs.....................................................249Plumbing + Wiring FAQs........................................................257Back-to-Basics Biology........................................................259How to Help Victims of Sexual Abuse and Other Tough Stuff.....................262All the Sex in the Bible

Chapter One

For Your Own Preparation

Suppose you came to a country where you could fill a theatre by simply bringing a covered plate on to the stage and then slowly lifting the cover so as to let every one see, just before the lights went out, that it contained a mutton chop or a bit of bacon, would you not think that in that country something had gone wrong with the appetite for food?

C. S. Lewis wrote that in the 1940s. We think he was on to something. We think maybe something has gone wrong with our appetite for sex. Pretty much any way you look at it, our culture is preoccupied with sex way out of proportion to its actual significance.

The kids you serve have grown up largely unprotected from what grown-ups cynically refer to as "adult content." But they didn't introduce all that to the sexual equation, did they?

So how do we help our students understand and enjoy and take responsibility for their sexuality? How do we equip them for life in the world where they live instead of some Neverland where children don't wrestle with sexuality?

Do we throw up our hands or dig in our heels? Do we ignore biblical messages written "too long ago" and "too far away" to be much use in the 21st century? Or alter them to fit modern sensibilities? Or do we hunker down and defend our tiny square of turf until the last of us dies off and the world goes to hell?

Things are messy. But not messier than what's recorded in the Bible. The earliest Christian communities flourished in cultures where sexual norms were flat-out abusive. Those folks lived in places where sexual slavery was a given; where women and girls were property-collected, traded, used, and discarded. They lived in cities where boys were sex objects for wealthy men. And no one raised an eyebrow, let alone a helping hand.

People who loved Jesus stood out in those cultures. And it wasn't so much what they said as the way they lived. God's people reinvented the family by living in committed marriage, instilling respect for women, and protecting and nurturing children instead of exploiting them.

These ideas were huge, not because smart people wrote about them but because ordinary people lived them out.

That's what we're after here: To contrast the sexual messages that kids grow up hearing and seeing with the much more optimistic view of sexuality in the biblical tradition. Somehow, what we call "the Church" has lost the thread of sexual wholeness along with everybody else. Maybe it's time to stop obsessing about the sexual norms that surround us and steadily but quietly help kids grow into their sexuality healthy and whole.

This session explores the messages that students routinely receive about sex and invites them to begin engaging the biblical text as a source of information and guidance about who they are as whole people-including their sexuality.

Suggested Session Outline NOW Where Did You Learn About Sex? | DVD + Discussion page 34 NEW Male + Female | Bible Study page 36 HOW SexTalk: Sex Messaging | DVD + Discussion page 39

Other Resources for Teaching on Sex Messaging NOW Where in the World Are You? | Survey + Discussion page 41 NOW Loveline | Discussion page 43 NOW Commercial Breaks | Video + Discussion page 45 NOW RU Sexualized? | Reading + Discussion page 46 HOW Shred | Exercise + Discussion page 47

Reflect for a Moment

We can't lead students where we're not willing to go ourselves. We can point them ... but they'd rather be guided. Here are a few questions to consider as you prepare to lead this session on sex messaging.

Q: If a totally objective stranger had absolute access to your life, where do you think she'd say you got your ideas about sex?

What influences do you think she'd say were healthy for you?

What influences do you think she'd say were unhealthy?

Q: Forget about the totally objective stranger: what do you wish you'd learned sooner?

Is there anything you wish you could go back and unlearn?

Q: If you had just one hour to talk with kids about sex, what would you try to communicate?

Why do you think that's so important?

If you couldn't lecture on the subject, how would you try to communicate during that hour?

NOW | Where Did You Learn about Sex? (10 minutes)

The Big Idea: Some of the ways we learn about sexuality are more trustworthy than others.

Play the video, then ask-

Q: What's the truest thing you heard in that piece? Why do you think that's true?

Q: Were any sources of sexual information missing from the video?

Distribute the Where Did You Learn about Sex? handout and talk through the questions together.

Here's a quote you can use in the discussion if you wish:

The debate over whether to have sex education in American schools is over. A new poll by NPR, the Kaiser Family Foundation, and Harvard's Kennedy School of Government finds that only 7 percent of Americans say sex education should not be taught in schools ... However, this does not mean that all Americans agree on what kind of sex education is best. There are major differences over the issue of abstinence. Fifteen percent of Americans believe that schools should teach only about abstinence from sexual intercourse and should not provide information on how to obtain and use condoms and other contraception. A plurality (46 percent) believes that the most appropriate approach is one that might be called "abstinence-plus"-that while abstinence is best, some teens do not abstain, so schools also should teach about condoms and contraception. Thirty-six percent believe that abstinence is not the most important thing, and that sex ed should focus on teaching teens how to make responsible decisions about sex.

Transition: Let's explore Mark 10 as a next step in our...