I Am No Longer Myself Without You: How Men Love Women - Softcover

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Jonathan Rutherford teaches Media and Cultural Studies at the University of Middlesex. A former community worker and journalist, he contributes regularly to the ‘Guardian’ and ‘Cosmopolitan’.

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Jonathan Rutherford explores the enigmatic silence which surrounds men's love. When a man falls in love he surrenders his condition of solitude; he relinquishes his masquerade of self-sufficiency. He falls into a wordless void. He is moved beyond words. A new story of his life is waiting to begin; a recognition that 'I am no longer myself without you'. Faced with such a prospect, men have been unsure how to respond to women – or, rather, how to respond to their need of women. Traditionally, they have reasserted their boundaries, recouped some of their solitude, restored order. Jonathan Rutherford searches for a new emotional voice, a new way forward, 'I Am No Longer Myself Without You' is a groundbreaking book that is at once cultural commentary, moving memoir and psychological study – a modern anatomy of love.

"Intriguing . . . Rutherford is master of his chosen subject: masculinity."
PAUL JOHNSON, 'Sunday Telegraph'

"A slim, elegant written account, packed with quotations from poetry, fiction, cinema, items form newspapers, popular culture and personal anecdote . . . Rutherford doesn't offer solutions but his assessments are both thoughtful and revealing and his anecdote, particularly those from his own experience, pinpoint why men do what they do . . As befits this huge subject, his frame of reference is wide from T.S. Elliot to Francis Fukuyama, Families Without Fathers to Men Behaving Badly. This book is very much Rutherford's own generation, those in their 30s and 40s who have had the post-war upbringing he explo0res. It might help men in their 60s and 70s understand their sons. And women, emotionally articulate lot that they are, will love it."
CAROLINE GASCOIGNE, 'Sunday Times'

"A superior, cogent, fascinating study, argued convincing."
TIM TEEMAN, 'New Statesman'