Deception (The Art of Living) - Softcover

"Marar takes it upon himself to fully explore our two-faced nature in his book, and very enjoyable this exploration is. His references are wide-ranging, covering philosophy, psychology, literature and modern culture, and his language has an easy-going, humorous, down-to-earth quality. This is no obscure philosophical tract, but an intelligently written essay on one of life's more complex areas. Deception is an essential text if we are to disillusion ourselves that in our dealings with each other everything is as straightforward as it first appears." - Culture Wars "For anyone involved in the narrative business (historians, ethicists, students of ideologies, religionists), this could be a very enlightening book, written with reference to a host of interesting references from the literature and the arts and leading the reader to be disturbed - a very good thing." - Australian Journal of Adult Learning

Most of us think we are about 15 per cent cleverer, nicer, more attractive and better drivers than others think we are. It seems deception begins at home. After all the most convincing liars convince themselves first. Sellers and buyers, parents and children, friends and lovers must conceal from each other the unutterable truth that they don't believe or want the same things. In this book, Ziyad Marar throws a revealing light on the many ways deception is woven into the texture of human life: our wiring leaves us easily suckered by persuasive illusions, while our contradictory desires (for sex and honesty, money and kindness, for cake and losing weight) force us to cook up self-serving stories. We manage flattering impressions with effortless skill, while pretending our sins and self-indulgences are beyond our control.Drawing on insights from philosophy, psychology and literature, Marar explores the implications for living well in the shadow of Kant's humbling thought that "out of the crooked timber of humanity, no straight thing was ever made".