Couple Fits - Softcover

Attachment theory has generated a lot of press attention recently. But Couple Fits is the first book to apply the principles to building healthier relationships and reducing conflict. Our first attachment relationship--as infants to our mothers--remains with us throughout our lives, and determines our future relationships with others. This book describes the three styles of attachment and provides a self-test so readers are able to determine their own style and their partner's. The authors then give tips for each possible combination of attachment types.Readers will learn:
* The identity of the three attachment styles: Secure, Avoidant, and Ambivalent
* How to communicate with your partner more effectively about your wants and needs, and encourage him/her to do the same
* How to "read" arguments correctly, by recognizing the issues at stake
* How to give negative feedback in a positive way, so that disagreements don't escalate into major fights

Couple Fits explores why someone you love can make you crazy and how you can significantly ease conflict simply by understanding your "attachment style". Our very first attachment relationship -- as infants to our mothers -- remains with us throughout our lives, and determines how we act and react to one another. We use these behaviors to seek the greatest degree of emotional comfort and security in social interactions -- especially with a love partner. This book will identify both your and your partner's attachment styles, show the potential problems that arise from those styles, and offer constructive solutions.

You will learn:
-- The identity of the three attachment styles
-- How to communicate with your partner more effectively about your wants and needs, and how to encourage him/her to do the same
-- How to "read" arguments correctly, by recognizing the elemental issues at stake
-- How to properly interpret each other's motivations
-- How to give negative feedback in a positive way, so that disagreements don't escalate into major fights